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I had a teacher advise me to make a habit of occasionally seeking out embarrassment, to stay in the habit, and prevent being paralyzed by fear of embarrassment.
I've followed that advice for years, and it's like a super power.
I've done so much cool shit that a previous version of myself would have been afraid to try.
I don't even remember all the embarrassing stuff, even though there's plenty. The cool stuff is what sticks in my memory, even though I'm prone to remembering my mistakes.
Saw a Ted talk that said the same thing. The guy over came some social anxiety by actively putting himself in an awkward situation each day (his was asking if he could get his coffee for free at the coffee shop). Once he got use to low stakes situations where people were surprised, confused or mildly judgemental (but also amused or just disinterested) it was easier to do things that actually mattered without worrying about people's reactions. And he got a few free coffees.
First step is to post something onpopular but true on Lemmy, and be OK with the downvotes. I dare you all. :)
Youtube is actually good for both viewers and uploaders if you use it right. If youre upset with your experience of it, its your fault.
Dance. Started dancing (taking classes) at 350lbs 4 ½ months ago, still going now at 295lbs. Everything is sooo much easier. First exercise I really liked, improves my flexibility, strength, and cardio. And I feel mad sexy doing it.
I'd highly recommend playing Dance Dance Revolution, if you're at all interested. Very fun way to burn lots of calories. There's an open source clone called StepMania. If you really end up enjoying it, you're going to want to invest in some high quality metal dance pads. Worth every penny though, in my opinion.
By the way, I'm 400 pounds. I know your struggle. I've lost well over 100 pounds playing StepMania before. Unfortunately I've had some bad events put me in a bad depression, which caused me to gain it back.
I'm a crossfit guy, but I absolutely agree. Once you find an exercise you enjoy and look forward to life just seems better.
I am handicapped and in early retirement. I had a hard time going on walks, got tired fast, there was always the fear of stumbling/falling again and carrying a bag was painful using a backpack made me getting tired faster.
I bought an expensive walking helper /walker with 4 wheels (not something you sit on and drive, but walk behind), a seat and a big bag for shopping. I feel like superwoman now when I am on a walk, because I can walk longer, buy stuff and just put it on the thing and it is so easy to get even heavy stuff home and whenever I get tired and no matter where I am, I just sit down, relax, power comes back and I can keep going.
The best thing I have ever bought in my whole life.
I was told this is only for very old people and that it looks ridiculous at my age and that I would not need it by everyone, fuck them. It is pure quality of life and increases my power to over 9000! I have been more outside in the last 12 months, than in the 5 years before that because of it.
Internet. I've lived in rural areas most of my life and only in the last five years was able to start gaming with friends and watching unlimited video. I feel much less resentment that people don't want to visit me and am happier getting my social needs met in person by physically going out less often (I still get out once a week ish)
It's not a replacement for intimate relationships but any means, but I do think it can enhance them with healthy boundaries n whatnot. I went through a rough break up recently that's had me realizing I'd like a partner that's ok with me having space to chill with friends day to day but still making time for each other.
Money.
As sad as it is, it's true. I was broke for so many years that I even today, after years of having some, it eats at me paying so much for a car or other stuff. And I don't know if I should change. I think I'll never will anyways. Just trying to help without being exploited. First: tell no one how much money your project (or whatever) made. Wife and kid know, obviously, no one else. ESPECIALLY not "family". But it's a super power in our world that one could get lawful justice if anybody does you wrong. Without any money, you won't. From experience. And the daily anxiety is gone. Ok, not gone, but very, very small. Completely without I'd be too lazy in the long run, I presume.
Transitioning
Generator so I have power when the power goes out. Would like solar but soooo expensive.
Literally, tyrosine and iodine, because my thyroid gland was running slow and I was feeling cold most of the year. Now my body's idling power is higher.
The first was my bike. Totally changed life. It opened up the entire county to me, though the far end was not viable time wise.
Then my first car.
After that, I suppose it was a cell phone. Gave me the freedom to travel and stay in communication on my terms. However, part of that was caller ID by default. The freedom to ignore calls and make the decision based on who was calling without having to worry about missing an important call was big time. Since I could do this anywhere my car could reach, it was the pinnacle of freedom, with subsequent iterations only expanding the use.
After that? My cane.
After my body fucked up, and I was on a walker for a while, being able to walk steadily without the walker was freedom again. It may seem like the walker was that, but it never felt like it. I went from jogging and walking and hiking freely to crawling, literally in a second.
From crawling, a walker sure was better, but it was as much a symbol of limitations as it granted more mobility.
But the cane? That's when I knew I would be able to have something resembling the life I had lost. It isn't the same as it was and never will be. But the difference between having the cane and not having it is what makes it powerful.
Moving to a city with a tool library. For an annual £20 fee I can borrow any of a myriad of power tools. Currently using an orbital sander for some DIY, previously borrowed a hedge trimmer for the garden, it’s freaking great.
Getting a 3D printer.
Most things I had to replace because of being broken, the thing that broke was just some plastic bullshit; now I can just replace the broken part. Not to mention the myriad of things people have made that solve problems I never even thought of until seeing them on Thingiverse and such.
Add a soldering iron and some other tools and I can make my own electronic gadgets.
I want a 3d printer so badly. I don't have the money for it, or the set up where I currently live to have one. But I'm supposed to be moving soon, and I want to start saving for one. I'm a crafty/DIY(read: jury rig) person by nature. I love fixing shit, making shit, and creatively solving problems. If I had more money, I'm pretty much the exact target audience for a 3d printer. Lol
stimulant use
Experience. Learning when it’s okay not to give a fuck, and when I definitely should.
At some point you just realized everyone is "faking it till they make it"
Tools.
Drill, star bits (make allen wrench bolts much easier), circular saw, oscillating multitool, clamps, a tiller, power washer, ladders
I moved to a different country driven by a wanting to become worldly rather than for economic reasons.
Facing a whole new place, with a different language, different social norms and expectations and even different living conditions, like that on your own makes you massivelly more adaptable to new environments, as a later move to a different country showed as well as living for a couple of months in yet another one.
Reading regurlarly, It really improved my attention time, and it definitively helps to manage my anxiety, weirdly enough.
Getting proper diagnoses and treatment/medication
Self-diagnosing with ADHD in my 30s. Going for an assessment soon!
The Dark Side.
Now I have unlimited power.
My divorce. I didn't even realize that my ex-wife was abusive until getting into the divorce process. Once I got away and started to understand, I began to take some of my power back and develop even more. I went from terrified of her to strong and confident.
Does upgrading my electrical panel count?
Learning another language, I guess? Besides learning English, being able to understand a few others even at a basic level is useful (if you ever get the chance to use it 😅).
Becoming proficient with Linux (I use NixOS, btw 🤓).
Psychedelics. Very eye opening.
Lets see uh falling into a vat of acid, suffering intense radiation , getting bit by radioactive insects and a lion ?
2011- prescription Vyvanse
2017- $300k family inheritance
2020- freedom to travel with no responsibilities
2024- semaglutide
semaglutide?
I envy the 'travel with no responsibilities' don't take that for granted.
I quit my job. Not sure if it gave me something but it sure took away a lot of asses I had to kiss.
Does that work?
Quitting smoking
Learned to code. Most profitable hobby I've ever had. Crazy fun.
A low-powered zoom microscope. I can again look at and work on tiny things, fix jewelry, electronics, remove splinters. Use it WAY more rhan I ever thought I would.
A decent GPU (rx 570). Could play any game I wanted without going through desperate measures to get it to run at minimal settings, could do more with game dev and 3d modeling, etc..
These days, integrated graphics are honestly pretty decent though. Hell, I'm pretty sure the steam deck's apu is more powerful than my machine in a few ways.
Real-time live AI captioning.
It's not perfect but more words than none.
I hold daily Scrum meetings in Zoom and everyone benefits with the transcript saved at the end of the meeting.
I raid with my guild, with Live Captions window overlaid onto of my chat box.
Relying on a basic understanding how things/situations work.
At a new school, I really messed up a math test. I was studying like crazy, learned all formulas that I would need and managed to apply them all in each question on the test, combining all off them each question. Lowest score possible (1 out of 10), as I really messed up. Next test I didn't study, I jusy flipped trough the book, checked 1 situation I didn't understood and made the test. On handing out the teacher asked what I did different then the previous test. I told him I didn't study, I just checked if it was logically to me and decided I understood as much as I could. He told me to do just that on all tests and I'd have no problems with education and gave me the result, a perfect score. (10 out of 10)
That was 34y ago and still I want to understand things and see the logic behind it. Works perfectly on almost everything. (Humans behavious still mostly eludes me though, totally illogical 🤨)
