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[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

This may not work for everyone, but I pull what hair I can out as I wash it and slap it on the walls. Then I swirl it up to throw away after. I hardly ever have to snake it back out, maybe once every few years.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Thank you for the reply! I've never been big on etymology but I might need to get more into it, that's so neat.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Being mentally unstable isn't a character flaw. We should be encouraging everyone to get help. A good therapist knows what a delusion looks like, what the criteria are, and how to develop a relationship with the client to gently challenge them.

I did a little deep dive on them recently when I realized I was talking to a narcissist with grandiose delusions claiming experts in sociology and such "made up" the gender/sex distinction and, whaddya know, he thinks narcissism is a made-up disorder, too. He's been around our discord server for months and I finally popped off and posted the criteria along with how his multitude of claims fit. He understandable got pissed, but at least everyone else is aware what the criteria is now and how to walk through it themselves. (And to be clear, I only weaponized the term against him because he referred to people using neutral pronouns - such as myself, as he is well aware - delusional).

If you hold a belief with absolute conviction that has been falsified, shown counter evidence, and it impacts your functioning in society, then you may have a delusional belief. It's not uncommon or a big deal once you can recognize it and work out the logic.

We really just need to be teaching psych in high schools, honestly. Destigmatize it. Ik I'm stigmatizing narcissism a bit here, so lemme add that being a narcissist doesn't mean a person will act as abusively (if at all) as the individual I've been dealing with is, nor does abuse imply a mental disorder. It gets nuanced but I think it's fascinating

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Ooo what do you call cotton candy?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago (2 children)

So, we shouldn't feed people because capitalism. Got it.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

If you want to call it a theory then I suggest working to have it peer reviewed. Otherwise, just call it a hypothesis. I see issues with it, personally, but I'm just one person and am not an expert. I'm finishing my undergrad in psych, but the rest of my comment is based purely on recreational study following experts in personality disorders and extensive therapy myself.

Main thing I'd note is that most people will show some level of narcissistic traits, but meeting the full criteria to label anyone anti authoritarian as narcissistic goes against the point you make in the first few paragraphs that we shouldn't be so quick to throw the term around. Feeling entitled to better pay on it's own can be justified, especially if it's in tandem with wanting fellow workers to receive that same benefit. Quite empathetic, actually. Turning off empathy in specific settings also suggests it's not a pervasive trait, which is an important piece of the DSM that was not mentioned.

I definitely see the argument that some anarchists will meet the criteria. And I agree with a good, maybe even majority of the points, like reducing stigma. Plus, it's expensive to get through an offical peer review process, and you're right that many folks with NPD could never afford that. But I think it would help to at least include some expert opinions and case study examples to support what seems to be mostly anecdotal testimony. Or if you have been diagnosed yourself, build on that as a primary case study example (cuz you do call yourself one, but it's not clear if you went through an assessment for it).

Super interesting idea, though - I'm gonna save it to reread and mull it over some more. Props on getting it published, for sure!

Ninja edit: Holy shit this turned into a much longer comment than I intended, sorry!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Aaaand I feel like an idiot, thanks 😅

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

I'm not voting for this scum, but yeah, we'll see. Hoping it'll make it to the ballot so the people can actually vote to amend the state constitution like others have. The people may be dumb at electing Representatives, but get a straight forward measure up for vote and the people seem to follow through in correcting it.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Sucks you're being down voted, I mean maybe saying "idiot-proof" isn't nice but comprehensive sex ed should cover helping those with a noodle understand how to find ones that fit comfortably and what main causes there are for breakage n whatnot. I'm currently having that discussion with my sex buddy, and I can't tell you the amount of times I've had people try to coerce me into letting them go raw dog in the past. Like keep in mind I'm in a state that has not only criminalized abortion but is defunding all planned parenthoods now.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Will definitely be awesome when all parties have comfortable, reliable, safe options to protect themselves

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Should be noted vasectomies aren't reliably reversible after a certain point, but if you know you don't want kids, by all means. I'd rather my partner take that leap than me have to have more invasive surgery

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I tried googling this but am confused by the results. Can you explain a bit more

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