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[–] [email protected] 120 points 6 days ago (1 children)

If you're a quiet dedicated employee your value will be recognized and rewarded.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Yeah, that doesn't work well anymore. Gotta be a noisy dedicated worker, and be willing to move jobs a few times to start seeing the rewards

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago

rewards mostly come from job hopping. Raises at every place I've worked arent callibrated to inflation, so your 4% raise that the boss thinks is so great is closer to 0-1%/

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 6 days ago (1 children)

“If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s meant to be.” Nearly cost me the best relationship of my life because I was a dumb, impressionable kid that believed in wise sounding words. If you love something, hold on to it. Work for it. Don’t let it go just to “see if it comes back”.

Same could probably be said for just about any seemingly wise sounding sayings.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 days ago (4 children)

I think it's more about control than sending what you love away.

"Set it free" means let your love interest choose to stay or leave on their own, don't try to keep them caged.

Depending on what you mean, it's possible that your love you regret letting go of wouldn't have lasted even if you had held it and fought.

Though if you mean you took that saying and thought it meant you needed to push your love away to see if they returned, then yeah, that's not a great strategy.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 6 days ago

My parents separated when I was really young, roughly 5 yrs old. As I grew up and had visitation with my dad he always drilled into me "women just want a man who can provide for them, in the end they all just want money." Being young and obviously not knowing how crazy my dad was yet, I believed him for a long time.

Turns out when you treat people like they just want you for your money, that's the only kind of people who will put up with you. Kinda self fulfilling. Found a nice lady now, happily married and caring about each other, not just money.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Don't believe anything you read on Wikipedia.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 5 days ago (2 children)

That infuriates me. “Oh but anyone can edit”. Yes, but see for how many seconds your stupid edit will last. It’s the single most rich and accurate encyclopedia humanity has seen, ffs.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Teachers should be using Wikipedia as an opportunity to teach skepticism and following sources. I wouldn't allow Wikipedia to be used as a cited source, but as a starting point for finding other sources on a topic.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Does anyone still say not to trust Wikipedia? They did so in the beginning and it certainly didn’t have to turn out trustworthy so that was good advice for a few years.

Now we see it’s the most trustworthy encyclopedia, and my kids’ teachers qualify it as “an encyclopedia is not an original source “, which is correct and a valuable distinction. They recommend it as a starting point but don’t allow citing it, as is correct.

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[–] [email protected] 81 points 6 days ago (7 children)

"Fully empty your battery before charging it up again, it increases the lifespan of the battery."

This was true before lithium-ion batteries became the norm. But for lithium-ion batteries, the opposite holds.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

Remembering which of my devices are old method charging and which are new method is a pain.

I have several camping lamps from like 20 years ago that I almost threw out because they weren't holding charge anymore, before I remembered to be fully draining the batteries and recharging them once a month. They work like new now practically.

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Effectively ALL of what I was told about what makes a satisfying and successful life. I was told the right thing to do is work hard, go to school, get a good stable job, get married, settle down, have kids, buy a house, own several depreciating assets.

Life is about being happy. Nothing else. Do what makes you happy, because that car, vacation, or other piece of consumer shit won't. Nor will living by scripts somebody else wrote for you.

I had my house paid off at 30 and was traveling 5-6 times a year. High-level in the gaming, lottery and promotions industries. Misery. Now I have a humble life and I paint and craft things and I go dancing. And I'm happy. I could pick up the tools again and make a highly successful Steam game, but I won't. I already proved my point in my career and creative output, and I don't want to anymore.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Bro, won in life, now doing sidequests

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago (5 children)

I gave everything away and now I live a simple life where I volunteer, work at crisis shelters, do recovery mentorship, housing outreach and other things. I am happy and I do not care about the trappings of the material world anymore. I chased the hologram until I caught it and discovered its true nature.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This reminds me of this meme, I saw one time :

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (7 children)

"When you first move into a house dont make any improvements for at least 6 months."

I now see that its Terrible advice.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago

Haha, no.

When you first move in you see all the flaws that the previous owners got used to living with. Fix them while you're still motivated to.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Don't make any improvements is a crazy proposition. But I agree with living in the place 6 months before doing anything drastic unless it is obvious. I live in a very old house. It took us a while to see the reasoning behind some of the features in our house. We were tempted to scrap anything that wasn't typical in new constructions, but that would have been a waste of money.

I was happy saving up for a few months and observing the house to see where my money was best spent.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I would argue that, rather than 6 months, you should really wait until after you've spent a winter in it. Lots of things that might seem odd during warmer months suddenly make sense when everything is cold, icy, and freezing.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

Exactly this! We did not understand how our house operated as a system until we experienced it in both the freezing cold and humid summer. Most modern homes were designed to circulate air efficiently, but with a 250 year old home, things work differently.

For example, the wood burning stove was put in that place for a reason, and although it might complicate the couch/tv placement, the benefits of a properly placed heat source outweigh the feng shui of the room.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 days ago (2 children)

You can always find it cheaper on Ebay.

This is actually somewhat true again now that Amazon has gone full monopoly abuse, but for a while Ebay was nothing but 1:1 with Amazon sellers and a serious lack of auctions.

Although you can go much lower with Ali Express and Temu, albeit with risk invovled.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

you wont be alone everyone finds a lifelong partner.

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 6 days ago (5 children)

~2004. My highschool civics teacher told the class that real estate was always a good investment because it only went up. I didn't really trust him at the time though.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Real estate can be a good investment, even pre 2008 crash. What can be dangerous is over leveraging. A primary residence isn't really an investment, still worth buying though.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I mean, if you had money at the time and bought a house in one of the larger cities or their suburbs, you would probably be loaded by now, even though you would regret it for about 5 years after the crash

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

You have to be loaded to be loaded? Got it.

This "teacher" also would complain about wellfare queens who had children just to claim more benefits, that the best thing that could happen to a country is to be invaded by the US because they'll rebuild afterwards and that every Union but teacher's Unions were obsolete today, among other things.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago

Don't talk to strangers on the internet

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago

Circa 2012 my boomer parents had me job hunting in person AND hand-writing the cover letters. It got me two jobs so maybe it wasn't the worst advice, but i would spend every day driving around and penning half a dozen letters for employers that, a lot of the time, weren't even hiring.

Anyway, that (12 years ago) was the last job hunt i've ever done, it's been nothing but networking and freelancing ever since

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