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highly interesting. I assume it is the abstract thinking process, combined with dissociation from yourself?
Then maybe, any puzzle computer game might provide similar effects.
Serious answer: I remind myself it's normal to be shocked by some stuff people do/create. I check the content against my ethics, and try to decide if I'm being uptight or if it really is messed up. If it's something that isn't unethical/harmful but I just don't like, then I remind myself that not everyone needs to share my tastes.
If it's genuinely terrible I allow myself to feel the anger/sorrow for a bit, try not to let it become excessive, and congratulate myself on having limits that fit my ethics. I remind myself that good people exist and they are the ones I want to support, emulate, and engage with. As others have mentioned, distraction can also help. Video games, music, socializing - whatever will move your train of thought along.
What a great way to word it!
Thank you for taking the time to explain your way of handling tha reality of being exposed to the internet!
I became desensitized thanks to copious gore at 13 😂
Goatse, 1man1jar, 2girls1cup, Mr. Hands, BME Pain Olympics, and unhealthy amounts of 4chan means the horrors of today slide off me like water off a ducks back.
Add tubgirl, 3 guys 1 hammer, kids in a sandbox, Mr hands, blue waffle and a whole lotta other stuff that shouldn’t have been as unfiltered and uncategorized as it was at the time.
Pain Olympics... shivers
I'm old enough to remember renting Faces of Death on VHS.
Oh man I remember rotten.com
Nothing is shocking anymore
I still remember browsing WPD, pretty sure the part of me that gets shocked on the internet died a long time ago
I desensitized myself years ago by looking at the worst I could find. It was bad for my mental health so I stopped. Now I'm no longer desensitized and a lot of things affect me again.
I prefer it this way.
And its bro', bangedup.com....(nsfw, nudes, but very tame vs 20 years ago...)
...populationpaste, efukt...
Gardening, Hiking, Watching nature's beauty without humans.
Time. But even then, it will pop into your head to say hi every now and then.
- back button
- use the mantra "I clicked on this, I chose this, I clicked on this, I chose this" a bit.
- you receive +1 to personal responsibility
I saw my first truly horrible Internet thing two decades ago, and it hasn't gone away. Sorry.
Keep thinking about it until it's not weird anymore
This is a good question, though. Seeing horrible things on the internet can affect you. Anywhere from getting wigged out to full out trauma is possible.
Personally, if I come across something like that, it’s a good cue to take a quick break from screens. Go for a walk. Eat if you’re hungry. Drink if you’re thirsty. Spend quality time with your pets or plants if you have any. Pay attention to how you’re feeling and do what might be necessary to make you feel good and healthy. In that state, it’s easier to bring yourself back to the here and now. Look around you and appreciate your life. Seeing how real and raw those things are can give a person perspective, but if you overexpose yourself or ruminate on them, it can fuck you up a little bit. Even if you’re “desensitized.”
If you’re lucky enough where things like that aren’t a regular part of your life (as it is for most of us here), use it as a lesson in not just taking care of yourself, but also of others and society as a whole. There are fucked up people in the world, yes. Sometimes the bad guys win and terrible or disturbing things happen, yes. It’s best to maintain pride in knowing you’re not trying to contribute to that problem, in whatever little way you can.
And if you can’t seem to shake it, get some therapy. Not just for that one thing, but, it may be likely you’re slipping into rumination or worldviews that make it difficult to handle depression. Therapy is great, for real. Shop around and find a therapist you like.
I got exposed to CSAM on Twitter over a decade ago. I'm still haunted by it, and anyone who does that deserves the worst things.
Make a joke in the comments.
I once saw a car accident on a freeway that involved burning bodies within the cab of the vehicle. Nothing I’ve seen online compares to that. Maybe I’ve just avoided the worst of the worst online, but nothing has been that graphic.
Playing guitar, or doing something else where I can't be thinking about it in the background such as Tetris as the other person mentioned, or reading a book
See something else not awful on the internet to forget about that awful thing.
Watch something worst
I whip it out
If genuinely disturbing, therapy can help.
Bob Ross videos are on youtube
Just don't dwell on it. But you'll probably think of it from time to time.
So it goes.
I once worked in a questionable industry, where there was no such thing as NSFW (nor NSFL). My coworkers and I would have competitions to see who could freak each other out the most; this was back in the goatsie, 2g1c, and bme pain olympics days. 🤮
It’s not my thing, but at the same time it doesn’t affect me much anymore. Though, as all things evolve over time, things probably have only gotten worse.
I guess, remember that whatever it is didn't happen to several billion other people. It can be hard to switch off empathy.
Also understand that the human brain is a complex thing, and if parts of it are physically broken or missing, the person might not be able to control of what they're doing.
Ignorance is a bliss.
I have never seen something awful, aside from.perhaps a Trump speech.
Bearing witness to human atrocity is a duty IMO. If thats what you mean?
sleep
Correction: how do you sleep after seeing something on the Internet?
- Pet an animal friend, or a friend's animal, or a friend. Probably ask the friend first, or maybe don't.
- Don't be afraid to hug your mom/kid/cousin/friend.
- If animals and friends elude you, find a stuffed animal/monster/alien/person that will let you cuddle if for no other reason than because it has no choice.
- Watch cartoons or sitcoms or romcoms, and deliver some good feels into your brain.
- Look for eyebleach (not literally bleaching your eyes!), and try to put the terrible thing behind you.
Good luck!
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Engage in something else, something fun maybe. A good movie could fix a lot of things, if that doesn't help time is the cure for everything.
I go with Fancy Fox Gaming's chill game music compilations on YT.
Its calm music from various rpgs and farming sim kind of games. SNES era sounds, roughly.