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Noticed not many people use curse words.

So.. why the fuck not?

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[–] [email protected] 66 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Fuck knows, fuck you, and merry fucking Christmas.

In seriousness though: no idea. It's nice though, not every sentence needs an f-bomb or a c-nuke. They're just helpful and/or satisfying sometimes.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Literally loses it's meaning and usefulness when overused as well

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You may often be understood quite well even without using harsh language in every fucking sentence.

Infact, refraining from using harsh language increases the impact of it when you actually need to for some god damned reason.

So please, consider using some bloody restraint, and only curse when you actually shit ass need to.

I hope that this comment has cleared it up for you, have a lovely new year!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Nah, fucking throw that shit around like it’s Tuesday.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I try to ease up on the c word when I think I might be replying to an American because I'm aware it has pretty hideous connotations over there.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Am American. Can confirm. Tons of cunts here.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

This is lemmy so capitalism

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm an American and I throw cunt out often enough. I'm from Jersey though and we curse a bunch, and I also was in the Marines, where we cursed a lot. It's where I picked up the phrase cunt hair, as in the unit of measurement.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Ah, Finnish army also has (or at least had) that unit of measurement, "pillukarva", literally pussy hair.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't swear often because that makes it so much more satisfying when I do. It's like rationing out my favourite snacks.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Also it makes you sound much more intelligent when you can express yourself with other words. It forces you to utilize your vocabulary.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago

What the fuck do you care cunt?

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Why the fuck not?

Beep!

Squid_Slime, you are fined one credit for a violation of the Verbal Morality Statute.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Oh noo so sorry here take take my money just don't ruin my social credit

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Because one of the luxuries of conducting discourse by post is that you have time to choose words that are more suited for your specific intention. When speaking, saying "fucking" is often simply a replacement for "uhh". At least, it is for me.

How a sentence with swearing is perceived is wildly unpredictable. For example, "science: it works bitches" was a comic and tshirt by Randall Munroe. Not for a second when he wrote that did the sexist interpretation of "ladies, start trusting science" enter his head. I'm not saying that is a lesson in not swearing. I'm just saying swears tend to have loads of meanings, and they are hard to use unambiguously. In art, ambiguity is often key though. I am against censorship.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

When speaking, saying "fucking" is often simply a replacement for "uhh".

Fucking what now?

Oh wait.......

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (5 children)

It makes me laugh when some people give certain words magical powers. They are just fucking words for Christ's sake.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

They're not "magical", they just have meaning and connotations.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But certain words DO have power, even if it's just power attributed by others it's still power, and it's really naive to think they don't.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Meh, I save my swears for special occasions, for when I want to make it clear shit is real.

Otherwise metaphors more plum than the violets of Persia do me fine. (That's actually a simile.)

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

I see swearing as a spice to be used sparingly in our conversations. You don’t want to overdo it, else they lose their effect, you want them there for a purpose or to accentuate a point. I’m not offended by swear words and curse pretty frequently through the day, but in written communication I try to be a bit more thoughtful with how I apply the shit.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Consensus? This your first day on internet or what?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Step one: instead of "Ass," say "Buns" Like "Kiss my buns" or "You're a buns hole" Step two: instead of "Shit," say "Poo" As in "Bull-poo," "Poo-head," and "This poo is cold" Step three: with bitch, drop the 'T' 'Cause "Bich" is Latin for generosity! Step four: don't say "Fuck" anymore 'Cause "Fuck" is the worst word that you can say So just use the word, "M'kay!"

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

There's not really much need for swearing in most comments/posts I come across on lemmy/kbin, so I'm not surprised it's uncommon.

I don't see a problem with bringing out the occasional swear word for particular emphasis or humour, but when someone can't write regular posts/comments without cursing it's pretty likely they're just a kid trying to be edgy on the internet.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Because its fucking rude to curse you shitheaded little twat!

<3

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The fuck would i care if people fucking swear or not, as long as you don't fucking target your fucking swear at others then you be fucking damn sure no one will fucking have any fucking problem with your fucking swear.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

The common "curse" words like "shit" and "fuck" are pretty impersonal. They can signal an escalation, but are typically pretty minor. They don't even do that when the speaker is like "I just took a huge shit. Don't go in there for a while"

Other words, like racial slurs and anti-queer stuff, invoke more history and violence. If someone calls someone an asshole that's probably not that big a deal. If they call someone a n-word f-gay-slur, there might be a hate crime about to happen.

So I don't use those words. I don't want to bring the stuff they import into the scene.

People who are the typical recipients of the slurs using them themselves is a related topic I'm not very qualified to speak on, and I wouldn't try to police their language.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (5 children)

You are frequenting an incredibly select number of communities.

Also, discussions tend to be more respectful here than on low bars like reddit, so crutches like swearing don't come into play as much.

In my case, my f****** speech to text won't f****** write out the c*** d*** c*** swear words, which I think is hilarious.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Consensus? You're asking the fediverse for a consensus?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Yeah, no idea what OP expected.

My two cents is that swearing with people you don't know might lead to misunderstandings, so probably it would be best to keep that shit to a minimum.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Cursing all the time is like yelling all the time. It loses its effect. That said, If you're going to swear, don't fucking censor your words. It's just stupid.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I don't focken feel like it, ya cunt.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

If it is needed I will use. Otherwise not.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

**** censorship

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It can be ~~totally~~ tonally jarring. I swear all the time, but if I threw some swears in my comments from my history then the messages behind them would be weakened.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Every other word (not literally) out of my mouth is a curse word, so much so that I feel less of a need to use them here. Plus every-once-and-a-while peeps take my rando opinions far too seriously. So, (to compensate), I try to be more polite than I would when actually speaking

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Cursing and not cursing will both get you pretty much no reaction here.

But... if you self censor curse words with f*** or s***.... some lemmings lose their $#!+!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I love casual profanities, fuck that.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

This is the internet. You can say "fuck"

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