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I know that it has significant meaning to me but I struggle putting it into words to explain it to other people (especially other dya cis people). So like a few years ago I was thinking about if I may be trans femme. I have since realised that no, actually I was just struggling with it for a while because I don't relate to the gender roles and expectations society puts on men. I now identify more strongly with being a man than ever before, and I love being a man in a gender-way. I just absolutely hate being a man in a "what role men have in society"-way.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

It's worth noting that humans do not come in a sex binary. Intersex is a lot more common than people think it is, just often in ways that are invisible. I know 3 intersex people personally that are all intersex in different ways. None of them would fall into either "binary" category.

Edit: To add to this, what about people with testicles that CANT produce sperm? Or people with a vagina but have had to have their womb removed due to a medical complication? These also don't fall under either definition given. Oftentimes rigid systems are only good for excluding people even if that isn't the intention.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Even if it's twice as common as most scientific studies believe it is, it's still less than a tenth of a percent of the population.

The fact that you know 3 intersex people says more about the company you choose to keep than it does about the prevalence in the average population.

Intersex people are important to keep in mind but we also need context here. Statistically, they're not a 3rd gender, they're a rounding error. They exist, but it's disingenuous to say something like "AHA, but you have failed to consider the tiny percentage of people who do not fit into your description!"

I think it's fair to say something like "sex is binary" in the same way it's fair to say something like "dogs have four legs". Yes there are dogs with 3 legs, but if we had to include every statistical rounding error every time we talked about something we'd never be able to say anything. Given the topic, I think Poggervania should have at least included a mention of intersex people, but let's not pretend that the world is split equally into male, female, and intersex.

If this bothers you, I challenge you to pick any noun and describe it. Literally any physical thing. Describe it to the best of your ability. I'll find something that you didn't include in your description.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I simply don't care about the rest of the argument. It is disgusting to call millions of people a rounding error.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Reality is often disappointing. But it is real.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Reality is, these people exist. Despite your protests they are real. Your argument is based on them either not existing or being a mistake.

There is simply no way we can ever align on this issue if we can't fundamentally agree that all people are people. Enjoy the rest of your day. I'm not continuing this.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 9 months ago

Well if you keep pretending I said things I didn't say, you can get offended at whatever you want. Please leave me out of it though. I didn't ask to be party to the made up argument in your head.