polysexualstick

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

You said:

Sometimes the software does not reflect the hardware.

If gender is the software and the body is the hardware, this is kind of the "born in the wrong body"-stuff many people still use and it implies that there is a kind of hardware/software combination that fits together and a kind of combination that does not.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

Could be because I reported it for being discriminating towards non-binary people because you negated their existence.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago

And it breaks my heart every time I hear yet another story of someone killing their own passion, numbing themselves down to the point that they become unable to enjoy what they formerly loved, just to "fit in" a society that doesn't accept deviation from the perceived norm.

Yeah I feel like that was an issue for me as well and one of the reasons I either repressed or resented parts of myself for a long time. And I'm glad the journeys I had the last couple of years (the one I described in the post and also the journey of overcoming depression) not only helped me accept those parts of myself, but be happy and proud that I have them.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

You make some very good points imo

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (4 children)

Nah, I don't subscribe to that analogy because it still implies that there are "male" bodies and "female" bodies when I think every woman's body is by definition a female body and every man's body is by definition a male body.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago

Wow, you are so enlightened shitting on non-binary people like that and denying them their gender experience /s

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Exactly my point, I just find it very difficult or even impossible to put my experience of gender identity like you describe it into words

 

I know that it has significant meaning to me but I struggle putting it into words to explain it to other people (especially other dya cis people). So like a few years ago I was thinking about if I may be trans femme. I have since realised that no, actually I was just struggling with it for a while because I don't relate to the gender roles and expectations society puts on men. I now identify more strongly with being a man than ever before, and I love being a man in a gender-way. I just absolutely hate being a man in a "what role men have in society"-way.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

I'm German, so I'm probably kissing former European Left Party President and current MP Gregor Gysi.

  • I don't want to sexually assault anyone, and I think he would find it funny more than anything else
  • I don't want to do it maliciously to like make someone look bad and with his demeanor everyone will be like "it's nice how chill he handled that"
  • I think he did important work so I wouldn't at all mind being seen with him in public

The only real other option would be Green Party MP Bruno Hönel because he's the only gay MP I find cute and maybe I can sneak his number...