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Why would the fact that their partner's pleasure is irrelevant to them be relevant in this circumstance, unless it was related to the whole 'compensation' thing? I guess I'm missing something here, that seemed like the clear implication to me.
Maybe I shouldn't hear what you didn't say though, sorry if I overstepped.
But yes, the latter thing is often true. Though I'm fairly sure it's a little more popular with AMAB people cuz of how the prostate works
Re-reading my original comment, I can see how you got that implication. I guess the point is that these men aren't actually compensating for anything, that's potentially a misreading of why they do what they do. Also only men seem to be concerned with the size of their member, in relation to equating it to partners pleasure. It also seems to be mostly other men who want to ascribe the idea that these men are compensating for something, which returns to the idea that mostly only men seem concerned with this issue because men equate "bigger dick" to "women like this." There's a lot of assumptions being played around among the varied groups of men that are all tied to this perception of the size of their penis impacting the pleasure of their lover, and it basically has fuck-all to do with women's opinions on the matter. The men who are seen as "compensating for something" may actually be the men least impacted by these perceptions, ironically enough, because they simply don't care.
Ah, I getcha now! Okay, that makes sense. Thanks for having the patience to explain! I love when something like this doesn't devolve into argumentation ☺️