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Older women, women with weight changes or visible disabilities, or transfolk of Lemmy - how has the male gaze changed for you? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I'm curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I mean, sure, 248lbs isn't exactly thin, especially since you never said height, but at my biggest I was 315 and could still walk.

There has to be more going on here....I'm so confused why being that weight would confine you so much. Yes, personal hygiene does get a bit more difficult. More hard to reach places.....but scrub brushes on sticks exist.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

Personal hygiene can suffer when you are deep in a depressive episode. Mobility might also be compromised due to a disability or chronic pain and not directly weight related.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Top level comment was deleted, but I was 220 at 5’ before I lost weight and I was still very mobile, hygienic, and wearing cute clothes. Maybe they deleted because they didn’t want to talk about what else was going on.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

It was quite a personal comment, and it seemed likely to get only moreso. I don't blame them for deleting it.