My favorite height in a woman is the height of the woman who is interested in me.
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I tell people I'm 4'23" and that sorts them out.
I'm 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼♂️
Being thin will land you there.
Also fat...
I'm a tiny bit shorter than 5'7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don't always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I've dated taller women a few times as well, so it's not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don't think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.
I'm 6'2" and I dated a woman taller than me. That was very odd not having to look down or crouch to hug. lol
I dated one woman who was so much shorter compared to me our favorite time to kiss was on the stairs.
I can't ride the go karts at the nearby go kart track because I am too tall 😔
Flying and being tall is a nightmare.
Whoa what? Since when can tall people fly?
Somedays average is best.
same for skydiving.
I'm too tall for that. But on a lot of dates i go, the woman tells me that she's glad i'm tall and then tell me a story how they went on a date with a short guy and how awkward that was.
Yeah, most awkward job interview I have ever had
I lucked out into being born 5'10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow "6ft or nothing" women self filter themselves and I don't have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5'4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5'2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman
I lucked out into being born 5'10,
RIP mom
I'm a 5'7 woman. Yes, I've been rejected a couple times because I'm on the taller side.
Wait really? Are you straight? I'd be really surprised any guys would think 5'7 is too tall.
I (woman, 5'10") was dumped for being too tall.
Condolences my dude.
dudette, I think
Is dude not back to being gender neutral again? What are we going with?
Would you have sex with a dude? If yes then it's fine
That's one hell of a standard
Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase "I'd have sex with that dude".
I'd say it's a expression that does have gender associations, but it's not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.
I get what you're saying. But what you're saying could also be interpreted as "you've suffered in a way we understand, so you're not a woman anymore, you're better, you're one of the men."
It's also like a guy being called "one of the gals" by the gals. That's not welcomed by most men, even if it's well meant. I don't want to be one of the gals. I want to be a guy and accepted.
So I just don't use "dudes". I use folks. Same concept, infinitely less ambiguity. Words are great like that. You always have options.
now that you say, I'm not sure anymore
Can be agender, can be a gender.
Fuck dudes, hanging with the dudes, ".... Duude...", "sex with dudes"
Same with bro or man. Also, progressively, defaults shouldn't be masculine and people shouldn't push that narrative.
Like, "I like having sex with multiple dudes at the same time", but, also, my gf is not a dude, dude.
But ALSO to complicate things further, sometimes chicks ARE dudes or bros just because they want to be and that's okay. And the more you think about that sentence the more your brain will hurt.
I dunno. Just... Don't be a dickhead and respect people, and it's probably fine. "Gotta know the rules before you break the rules."
I think it might be dependent on context, unfortunately/confusingly.
No. I got married before online dating existed
I'm guessing you're a man ?
I'm 5'4 male and average looking and a bit chubby
Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
People do get rejected for their height lol, ppl are shallow, all woman aren't saints, what you should be saying is you should avoid anyone that cares about height, theyll remove themselves and its a non issue, ive had girls attracted to me calling me 6 foot be less atteacted to me visibly when I corrected them and said im actually 5 10 no logic in it lol
People do get rejected for their height lol
People also get rejected for not being 300 lbs. Everyone has tastes.
I think the number of girls out there ACTUALLY rejecting people for height is not as many as you'd think. And good riddance.
This absolutely. I'm a 5'1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.
If you lined up every man I've dated over my lifetime, you'd see men from 5'2" to 6'4".
The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you'll find success.
When my now husband told me he was 6'3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn't have batted an eye if he was shorter
Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.
I dated one guy who told me he was 5'10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5'7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn't like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.
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Lol ok I feel dumb after looking at the comments. I thought you meant like... On rollercoaster rides or something.
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Reading the thread. Most of you guys are not THAT short lol. I actually married my guy who is 5'1". He has a nice smile, funny and smart.
He has told me unfortunately that he has often been declined often by women due to his height. We have asked our mutual friends who said they won't date someone who is that short which is unfortunate because they all love him too.
He's pretty confident, professional, so people from work finally meet him in person, they are surprised he is not taller.
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