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What music do you like?
MAGA?
If you like music, and hate MAGAs, we can be good friends.
If you dont like music, and hate MAGAs, we can probably still be friends.
If you LOVE the music I love, but are MAGA, then you can fuck right off. I don't hang with Nazis, no matter what your musical tastes are.
What's your favorite video game?
What's your favorite movie?
What's your favorite book?
If they say Call of Duty, Atlas Shrugged and Catcher in the Rye: They will never be my friend.
I know a few who would answer skyrim, avengers and ???. They're kinda nice but also insanely lame and boring.
What brings you happiness or joy in life?
What do you do for fun?
What's one thing you'd 100% recommend to someone brand new to the world?
Reasoning:
What do you mean? An african or european swallow?
[Queue screaming]
What's the average rainfall in the Amazon basin?
What is your favorite color?
The nice thing about using that Monty Python quote is that if I don't like the answer, I can then mime throwing myself into a chasm, and thus extricate myself from the situation.
ASL
17, w, cali
Suddenly feeling old.
40, m, Manchester UK.
Also old, 44/f/usa
How did we get here?
What is your favorite deck
What is your favorite joker
What is your favorite spectral card
Enterprise D - I like the carpet.
Heath Ledger.
Immolate - I'm not a destroyer, but $20 is $20.
magic deck
blueprint
ankh
Blue
Hologram
Cryptid
Red
Batter
Shit I can't remember most of them, but the "add 3 enchanted aces" is pretty solid (that is a spectral effect, right?)
As you might be able to tell, I play pretty conservatively. Though that might change once I've unlocked more.
The one I imagine where every right wing conservative is given a haymaker of justice.
The original tv Batman series was great growing up.
I'm too much of a nerd to understand - is this all a balatro reference?
That’s not how you make friends.
Just be interested and ask them questions about their life and hobbies and see if they do the same.
It's a starting place. The rest depends on building trust and respect and common interests.
Oof. Guys be interested in people i don't know anything about.. In this day and age?
Fuuuuuuuxk im cooked
I need to know whether they like animals.
My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say "Who the hell are you?"
Then he'd shut the door abruptly, wait 3-4 seconds, then open it, laugh, and welcome them in.
If you can do that and they don't get offended, they're friend material.
My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say “Who the hell are you?”
Sad story time.
A friend of mine was visiting one of our mutual friends nearby in the big city while I was in the far, far outskirts. He was such a positive influence that I agreed to come visit at the same time and catch up, as he was always a great time. This excellent friend always brought a gallon of stories, his usual infectious manner, and this time he brought a surprise new girlfriend.
I did the "who the hell are you" and she got put off. It went reeeally poorly. They left for home the next day, ahead of schedule, back to America. He shut me out. Over the years he kinda shut everyone else there out, too, as far as I know, as he focused on the birth of two kids in succession and then his wife's affliction with an aggressive debilitating disease; it may have been ALS. He shut a lot of ancillary things and people out, and I get that of course, but I am disappointed that my last interaction was a bombed joke.
It's been 18 years. I finally booted him from my social media about 7-8 years ago.
Wide implementation of this technique would certainly explain why anxious/nervous people would have fewer friends.
