Being more interested in a friend's reaction to something I sent them than I am in something they sent me.
I often feel like..., "If you discuss my content (I usually send things first), I will be happy to give your content greater attention."
this post was submitted on 14 Jan 2025
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interrupting people
Me too, but there's also the inevitable silent "you talked over the top of me to the point where I had to do it back to you just to participate in the conversation! Look what you've done!"
Me every time my husband is upset that I interrupted him. Dude. You're only talking right now because you interrupted me.
Judging people by their appearance
When somebody won't just take the compliment. It's like come on, just take the W.
But also I feel strange getting praise in a real time conversation.
To counteract this, I usually accept it right away and move on. But then I feel weird. Like, should I compliment back? It now feels weird that the compliment was over so fast. I don't think there's a good way to accept a compliment.
I think it all depends on the sincerity and scale of the compliment. If someone just offhandedly says that your shoes are cool, it's ok to just say thanks and move on. But if someone makes a specific compliment on something close to you, like pointing out a part of your project they like, it might be more appropriate to talk about choices you made, how it was done etc.
PRAISE ME MOAR !!!11!!!1
Oh man, that's a good one. Agreed its strange and sometimes awkward excepting praise.
"I'm sorry, I can't accept that. Well, except maybe this once."
What if we don't agree with the compliment?
Not putting YouTube on full screen
I'm a total slob at home but can't stand people who treat public communal spaces the same way.
I don't see anything wrong with this. You can treat your own home however you like, as it's not affecting anyone else.
I figured it went without saying that home is also a communal space
Ah, that changes things..
I vocal stim when I'm alone. I'm terrified of the day that I do it when someone is around.
More people do it than you might think! I sit in an office of 8, there's always someone either quietly beatboxing to themselves, doing minute long "uhhhrrmm"s or muttering movie quotes. There's an understanding that anyone who feels bothered by the stimming can put on their noise cancelling headphones lol
Tell you what: I'll make the noises and wear the headphones, lol
What does this mean?
I think Make loud noises just for fun.
I do it at home as well.
Meh, let people judge. Sucks they don't feel comfortable enough in their own meat skin to do the same.
My wife converses with herself when nobody is around. What the fuck ever, it helps her process things, it is fine.
Saying “ya know” as a crutch
I often talk aloud all by myself when I'm reading. Either reading the book aloud, or talking to no one in particular commenting whatever I'm reading. Maybe talking to its author, or to the book itself?
Worse: I do think it helps me a lot get what I'm reading, and I would love to see more people doing it ;)
Does it count if my pet peeve is that I inadvertantly wound up having to do myself?
HAHA that is great! I would say of course. I can't count how many times this happened to me and how annoying it is. I think that's why I don't trust people to do anything for me now.
Snoring.
Leaving shoes or anything laying around the apartment, making an annoying obstacle course.