"how's your day going?"
"How was your weekend?"
" Any plans for the week?"
These are cheap, lazy ways to start a conversation. Give them a go, Plankton
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And when they respond, be interested in what they do. Ask questions, make follow up questions etc.
Maybe it's just my experience, but this just does not work. Maybe it's because I'm asking "get to know you questions" and perhaps those should be reserved for dates; but the one time I decided to start by arranging a date, I got the answer "I would prefer if we got to know each other better here first" - which I agree with, by the way. So I do end up asking "get to know you questions", but the women I've matched with don't even try to put effort into the conversation.
To demonstrate what I mean by that, here's a fictional representation of an actual conversation I've had (the content is fictional, but the structure and tone is real):
in her profile, she says she likes movies, so maybe I'll ask about that
Me: Hey! So, what was the last movie you watched?
Her: Oppenheimer
Me: Cool, I went to see it last week! What did you think of it?
Her: It's good
ffs, it's always like this. fuck it, instead of asking another question, I'll just answer my own question and make force her to come up with something to say
Me: [Give some of my thoughts on the movie]
Her: Ok
I never replied to her "Ok", and she never said anything else. Most conversations follow along the same lines: me asking questions and getting the shortest answer back with no question turned my way.
This might make me sound horrible, but I had to stop using dating apps because it was beginning to give me a horrible view of women.