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I don't put effort into not being single

Because relationships takes works and I realized that I am happier putting that work into me instead.

vaguely points at everything

I might also be too lazy to put any work on dating apps. Maybe I should start that again.

Because I finally came to the conclusion that I'm happier, healthier, and like myself better when I'm a bachelor.

Needed to figure some stuff out about myself after a break up. Now it's just getting out there and letting things happen organically.

My last breakup was very traumatic, and it'd taken about 5 years to heal from that. Ready to date again, but it's harder now that I'm older.

I’m getting divorced as we speak, nothing is officially signed yet but it will come.

After 13 years of this relationship, I want to be alone at home and won’t be looking for any romance any time soon. Just plain old « enjoyment » and we’ll see what happens in the future.

The mental block and also the fatigue from the last break up 2 years ago.

She likes my best friend lmao

I've only had one SO in my entire life. I was so deeply in love with her, but she had several mental health issues that made it really difficult and traumatic. Imagine a relationship in which one is not ready to have said relationship, and the other has no experience whatsoever in relationships. It was total chaos, and ended pretty badly.

Before this relationship I was completely obsessed with having a soul mate. I was constantly depressed because I wasn't able to find a partner,.because there was nobody I was interested in to begin with.I thought I was broken. Turns out that, while I am able to have romantic feelings, I fall somewhere in the asexual spectrum. This means I actually don't have any interest in anybody, unless I get to know that person and fall in love with them. But this has happened just two or three times in my life.

Right now, after my failed relationship, I've come to terms with the fact that I don't really need , nor want, to be with anybody to be happy. Just like some of you, I appreciate my alone time and being "free", not having any sentimental responsibility... So that's why I'm single; because I want to.

Edit: The bottom line is I fucking suck and I don't blame anyone for wanting nothing to do with me.

Decided after my last breakup that i cant do this shit again or i will probably off myself..... Its been 10 years and now i cant remember how to talk to women...

Because no woman close to my age has shown interest in me.

Severe social anxiety. I can handle basic small talk, but anything resembling flirting is out of the question.

When I was single for much longer than I liked it myself, it was for a large part because, unbeknownst to me, my style of humor was quite hurtful to others, making me quite the asshole. Needed a while to figure that out, because me being the asshole was not an idea that went down well.

After my divorce, covid hit, and i got comfy being single.

I don't try and I just don't feel the need to.

Too sad

I’m asexual and aromantic. Essentially “no thanks.”

I'm ugly

:)

Cancer

Dating apps switched to mobile. When we wrote to each other on computers with physical kbds, it was like email and a long-distance conversation. Now it's like text messages and I am not good at smalltalk. I thrived on dating apps in 2010 because I could really express my personality. It got a lot harder when everything became apps instead of websites.