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I think I got too secure in my own identity. Now I just feel like I'd be annoyed trying to incorporate most of the women I meet into my lifestyle (doesn't mean they're bad people, just not a good match for me). Every so often I meet someone I feel like would be a good fit but they're usually already in a relationship or not interested. At this point I'm just doing my own thing and if a relationship happens, I'll roll with it but until then I'm happy being single.
This is important though. If you're happy with the way things are then that's totally fine.
I never expected to get into a relationship so soon after getting divorced. I didn't feel like I was ready. I just thought this lady at one of the other offices of the company I worked for was cute and decided to chat her up.
She caught me off guard when she asked me out. I had to be straight with her so I told her that I had recently gotten divorced and I wasn't looking for anything serious but if she wanted to hang out, I would like that. She was actually ok with it. That was six years (married four), and two kids ago. She is an awesome lady and I am one very lucky guy.
I would have rather remained single for the rest of my life than have to live through a bad marriage again. It's better to be alone than to wish you were alone. At that point in my life, I was happy being single. But I like where I am now too and I'm happy things worked out the way they did.