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There is a very apt series of shorts for your behaviour (just that we can see in the post and comments of course):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdyHX8K1yfY& https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxSa-C92Wno&
It is ok to know someone isn't 100% correct and not call them out for it. It is a huge social skill not to be right all of the time, but to validate other peoples' feelings and pursuit of learning new things. In short, just be quiet and don't say anything like 75% of the time if you know someone is wrong.
Lol that's hilarious, thanks for this. Very funny skits that capture a particular kind of Redditor (maybe the average as the name implies?). I don't feel like this really accurately represents my situation though, since this guy is just douchey and pretentious/arrogant about everything, and nitpicks and corrects people over every small and trivial detail.
At least from my point of view, I'm not the one that starts arguments or argues over things unless it's particularly important, and even then I try to let it go unless I'm being actively confronted by it.
It probably makes a difference to know that only one person has ever said these things to me. I've just looked into the phenomenon happening with other people as well (on Reddit ๐), and often it is just a single person in their life who does it. So it seems like either this one person is unreasonable, or the problem manifests only with them somehow.
I guess working from the position that I have reason to believe I'm in the right (not in the sense of "trying" to be right all the time, but about being genuinely stuck in a position where no matter what I do, I'll be accused of these things anyway), it stumps me and makes me feel that even the most rational reply I could give would be met with "I have an answer for everything"... if they don't like the fact that I'm answering them, what answer could possibly suffice? I don't see what I'm supposed to do there.
If conversations with this one person are frequently reaching the point where things like that are being said, it seems pretty clear cut: you should honestly just avoid any of the topics that have resulted in debates with this person.
It doesn't necessarily mean you can't talk to them about other things or that you can't be friends (although it might).
Not every relationship has to allow for talking about all topics.
Sometimes being right isn't actually important and can actually be counterproductive with certain people/topics.