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How.
You signed off every comment with a snide shitty oneliner. Even if your point is well founded, conversing like that is going to catch you flak.
The hell I did. One's an explanation, one is literally "thanks," one is the only sentence and pointing to the initial not-remotely-hidden explanation, and one is that explanation made even more explicit.
What the fuck else was I supposed to say? Do I have resting bitch font - are people just automatically reading things in the shittiest possible tone of voice? Read it conversationally and there's none of that alleged tone.
This and so many other conversations go 'Why are you mad?!' 'I'm not and I don't know how to convince you of that.' 'Ah-HA!' There's no winning. Once someone's assumed you're fucking with them, somehow, the words don't matter.
In a normal conversation you'd absolutely come across as a massive dick. You don't have "resting bitch font" you just sound absolutely insufferable. You can make your point while not being a dick about it, you just need to choose your words better and not go for the "uh huh, definitely, here's why you're wrong and why I'm right, now piss off"
I agree with them.
I am abundantly agreeing with that confused dingus. They're making the comparison I was making, in the first place. They just keep going 'then what did you mean?!' as I repeatedly clarify what was never a mystery.
This is a trolling tactic. I don't think they did it on purpose, but the effect is the same. It creates no-win situations, where all responses can be twisted in bad faith and cast as vicious mockery. Even when it's 'I am not yelling at you... you are yelling at me.'
Do y'all think rhetorical questions are automatically hostile? If someone answers one, and I tell them it was rhetorical, and they still demand to know why I asked - what the fuck am I supposed to say? What sequence of words is not going to be labeled condescending, sarcastic, or backhanded?
Once everything gets read as insincere, the words don't matter. Nothing I write will be taken seriously. A dry and complete accounting, just trying to smooth things over, is labeled "semi-friendly shit" and publicly shamed. No roads lead out of that trap.
Would any apology have worked? Or would it be read as more of the same sneering tone that is 100% inferred and 0% implied?