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[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago

'here’s why you’re wrong'

I agree with them.

I am abundantly agreeing with that confused dingus. They're making the comparison I was making, in the first place. They just keep going 'then what did you mean?!' as I repeatedly clarify what was never a mystery.

This is a trolling tactic. I don't think they did it on purpose, but the effect is the same. It creates no-win situations, where all responses can be twisted in bad faith and cast as vicious mockery. Even when it's 'I am not yelling at you... you are yelling at me.'

Do y'all think rhetorical questions are automatically hostile? If someone answers one, and I tell them it was rhetorical, and they still demand to know why I asked - what the fuck am I supposed to say? What sequence of words is not going to be labeled condescending, sarcastic, or backhanded?

Once everything gets read as insincere, the words don't matter. Nothing I write will be taken seriously. A dry and complete accounting, just trying to smooth things over, is labeled "semi-friendly shit" and publicly shamed. No roads lead out of that trap.

Would any apology have worked? Or would it be read as more of the same sneering tone that is 100% inferred and 0% implied?