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what would it take for you to take back a partner who cheated on you ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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specially for men but even women too.

like with how much more men statistically benefit from relationships and how hard dating is for younger men I just don’t buy they would break off a relationship with a woman who cheated on them. Especially if she gave them a good deal because not only is fending a girlfriend harder but women just won’t put up with mediocrity anymore we only date if we are interested we have our own money (young women out earn young men), our emotional support structure is better and the orgasm gap is real most men don’t measure up.

So would you seriously rather be single then settle ? Every man says this but looking at the data it seems none of them mean it.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

There would need to be more at stake than just our relationship, like a kid or something. The trust is gone, and while that can be regained over time, I'd never want to spend that kind of time waiting for it to come back.

A kid complicates things. Being in bad relationship for the sake of a child isn't doing the child any favors. Just gives them a bad impression of what a relationship looks like. It's probably better off not being in a relationship but still being in the child's life if the other person allows it. Some instances of cheating are easier to handle than others and there's no hard and fast rule. If it's something that'll interfere in the relationship for a long time, I wouldn't come back.

I say this as a guy that has decided to be single rather than settling. Not because anyone cheated on me. Things didn't work out because of things beyond our control. They set the bar high and I haven't found anyone who is as good.