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Do you want kids? Why or why not? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I’ll start. I’m a 37-year-old woman, and I’ve always been indifferent about having children. I love peace and quiet, but at the same time, I wouldn’t mind having kids if my partner really wanted them.

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now and married for 11. I’m his second (and final) wife. He has three kids with his first wife. She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children. That solidified my decision not to have kids.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My first kid is almost 3 and we have another on the way. It is so fucking draining and so fucking awesome. My wife and I joke about what the hell we did in our free time before our daughter. We both have careers and hobbies so it's not like we were bored, but it is so much fucking fun having a kid. We would definitely kill for some more free time, but highly recommend it. Also, if you decide to have kids, it's not very difficult, it's just a lot of work.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

Kids fill you to the brim with love, and drain you of everything else.