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I think its because, to an extent, masculinity has been villainized, and people who are masculine (in appearance, identity or desire to be traditionally masculine) naturally look for people that pretend to value them.
This combined with reduction or even removal of shop classes, reduced PE, recess and physical activities in school, female teachers now far outnumbering male teachers, and strict attitude towards typical male behavior can easily build a huge amount of resentment in young men. Most public schools now are heavily tailored towards female students.
Doing normal boy stuff, like roughing each other up and messing with your friends got me and other boys detention, and it felt extremely unfair.
I'm sure it did.
Bullies always feel victimized when anyone stops them.
What you consider masculine or feminine behavior is mostly socially constructed.
There are these myths that only men where hunters while women where only gatherers, which turn out to be false. Women and men both hunted and gathered. Link
IMO, the real issue is that current society places to much attention to gender roles, and for men it is done it in a way that makes it difficult and contradictory for young men to find their place: "You are a 'man', and you have to behave this specific way, however if you do that you are bad and will have trouble finding a partner. However if you do not behave like a 'man', you are weird."
The conservative gender roles don't only hurt women, they hurt men as well. And dating and finding a good partner sucks for everyone.
Schooling has become overly feminized to the detriment of boys. Graduation rates are the very clear proof