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Yes that is the definition.
However, it's now being used as an insult as well. I've been called this even though I've been married 20 years with children, by a 40 year old spinster.
And you don't think it may have had more to do with what you were saying / the way you were behaving than your looks? I don't doubt that incel may be thrown around more as a basic insult these days - it's just reaching that level of ubiquity in everyday speech - but I have more often heard it used towards men who are saying or doing things that are misogynistic. The same kind of misogyny that betrays a deeper insecurity has long been common in adolescent boys who are going through puberty and dealing with feelings they don't know how to deal with yet, and the word incel has become a convenient way to call it out, but I do feel that when it comes to adolescents there should be some charitability and understanding. Andrew Tate and the rest of the Manosphere are giving these kids the opposite of what they need, though.
Oh it wasn't used aptly which pissed me off even more.
Being called an incel to an awkward teenage boy has an equal but opposite effect to an innocent teenage girl being called a slut.
I'm advocating neither term should be used to either of them.
Calling someone a spinster in that context gives off incel vibes.