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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago (6 children)

Pardon my ignorance, but what does cis mean?

[–] [email protected] 55 points 3 months ago (3 children)

“cis” and “trans” are prefixes denoting on what “side” something is. “cis” means “on this/our side”, while “trans” refers to “the other side”, for example:

  1. “Cisalpina” is how the Romans referred to their side of the Alps (modern day Italy), while “Transalpina” referred to land on the other side of the alps.
  2. There exist certain pairs of molecules with either a “cis” or “trans” prefix, depending on whether certain identical groups are on the same side or on opposite sides, respectively.

The modern use of “cis” and “trans” is generally about gender. A cisgender person is someone whose gender identity aligns with their sex assigned at birth, while a transgender person is someone for whom that doesn’t hold true.

In this meme, the person on the right is wearing a transgender flag for a shirt, and presumably offending the cisgender person on the left by calling them cis. The meme is making fun of the fact that some cisgender people consider “cis” an insult, when it really only is a neutral and non-offensive description.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 months ago

Can i just thank you so very much for that amazing etymology summary you just made? I can't even grammar right now, love it!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I try to make this as exeggerated and stupid of an example as possible if I got it right:

So… let’s say if a 37 year old man, born male, with a wife, born female, who is married with kids with a house in suburbia and stable income, calls some regular thai ladyboy a “fag”, while said ladyboy counters “pretty harsh tone for a cis” and then that 37 year old man gets angry over the fact that he’s being called “cis”… That man is being angry about the fact that he is being called non-trans?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The outrage is more that a label is being applied to them. They want it to be 'women' and 'trans women', where only 'non-normal' identities get a label.

The application of 'cis' bothers conservatives because it changes the narrative, from people who identify as their assigned sex being 'the default', into cis people just another state of identity with no more significance than the others.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

Huh…. Weird. And here I am, having grown up with an aunt who always wanted to be a man, and to be honest, I never questioned it. I got told as a kid that he felt he was born in the wrong body, so I just went with it. I never had the urge to call him a trans-woman or anything, not even as a teen. Might be good to get rid of that trans thing.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

We learn whatever we're taught, and many people were taught that people who are different should do whatever it takes to be "normal".

Those people hide their true self and ridicule/attack others so they must do the same.

Fortunately, there are LESS people teaching that now. The kids I interact with at work give a lot of hope for the future.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

They would be a trans man fyi.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago

I'm not an expert on assholes, so I can only guess at his motivation, but I have a theory that the guy in your example maybe doesn't actually know what cis means, but he understands his intentions behind saying "fag" so he assumes that "cis" was intended in the same way.

That's just my take, a proctologist may have better insight.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for the clear explenation! Further comments say it's a pretty neutral identification, but to me it sounds like there's two sides of it and one is bad. I presume this feeling is incorrect?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 months ago

Yes. "Cis" is just a description, like "straight" or "white." Calling someone "cis" is not an insult, but some conservatives take it as such. The common phrase they echo is "I'm not cis, I'm normal." They're trying to denormalize trans people by making an inoffensive and common descriptor an insult. The same people sometimes have a problem with being called straight by queer people because they see themselves not as straight, but normal, and anything different is abnormal. In reality, "gay," "straight," "trans," and "cis" are no more abnormal descriptors than calling someone "black," "white," "American," or "tall." It's all just "othering" those they perceive as political opponents.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It’s short for cisgender, which is basically the opposite of transgender. Cis and trans are both Latin prefixes, meaning ‘same side of’ and ‘opposite side of.’

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Ohhhhh. I wish that were explained more. My only problem with the term "cis" is that it seemed to come from nowhere, a made-up term out of a random syllable that was suddenly being applied to people.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Like Inside as the outside. Do you feel like a man and were born male, do you feel like a woman and were born female? Then you are cis. It's the opposite of trans: inside not like the outside.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Ooh, thanks for the insight!
So does that mean one could be Cis and Gay for example? As in feeling like a man and born male, and also attracted to men?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, pretty much. IIUC being trans does not have anything to do with terms for sexual attraction.

Question for the crowd who understands this better, a transwoman attracted to women is still termed a lesbian, right?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yep. Gay transmen, Bi transpeople, Lesbian transwomen and every other sexual attraction paired with the queer spectrum.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

"If I Understand Correctly", most likely. Same pattern as "If I Recall Correctly" (IIRC).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

As in feeling like a man and born male, and also attracted to men?

Yes. Those are the manliest of men.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

And they've got the theme song for Two and a Half Men playing in their heads at all times

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Born as the gender you identify with.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 3 months ago

The use of the word cis has its roots in an obscure Usenet group; it's genesis (apparently) rooted in a desire for more inclusive language for trans folks (the notion that "gender" Vs "transgender" was too othering).

It hit Tumblr like a train in the 2010s, and became a symbolic phrase in trans counterculture. "Cisgender" was less than popular with non-trans people, as it robbed them of the illusion of normality and turned the word "gender" into a social trap.

It later found derogatory use in the phrase "cissy" (a counter for the popular derogatory term "tranny").

It's a fun word with an interesting history, and it has helped contribute to the wider acceptance of trans folks.