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Hmm, fair enough.
I removed that sentence because I realized it was a bit assumptious. But honestly I don't understand why it would be better from a gay person. That would make me personally more uncomfortable, because it would feel like an advance that I would not be able to retort. If it would come from someone I assume ia straight, I would just take it as a compliment. Like, I can see how other men are beautiful/handsome, even though I have no sexual interest.
Well, if very much the exact opposite for me. I really don't understand why you would care about how other people look unless there is physical attraction. Telling someone that they look good without any physical attraction seems very insincere to me. Like, why do you care how I look like if you have no interest? It's just weird.
Now I do agree there are some exceptions for extreme cases. I can look at Ryan Gosling and it's hard to ignore that he is a very beautiful/handsome man. But I still wouldn't tell HIM that. First of all, he knows and second, for what purpose? I'm not really interested, he isn't interessted. It would be a weird thing to say.
It's not about caring about the way someone looks, it's about appreciating something someone has put effort into or the way they express themselves, imo
I guess Ryan gosling knows it, yeah. But probably not every man you see on the bus or at the grocery store does. So why not brighten their day a little? I like to compliment guys on tattoos or nice hairstyles etc when I notice it.
So basically A for effort, that's exactly what I mean by it being insincere.
Because that is just lying to people to make them feel better. It's patronizing and disrespectful.
why would it be insincere? again, sounds like a you problem to me.
What do you mean why? YOU just explained it to me.
You said you would tell someone their beautiful, not because they actually are, but because you're regonize that they put in effort. That's insincere.
You said you should tell random people on the bus (most of them will be very average looking) that they are beautiful, because you want to make them feel better. It doesn't get much more insincere than that.
Also, there is no problem because guys randomly complimenting each other isn't a widespread thing in the real world. And in my book that's a good thing. There is already enough lying and disconnect from reality in the world.
obviously I'd only say it when I actually think it's beautiful... I just prefer to compliment something where they put in effort instead of just "nice eyes" or "youre beautiful" or some bullshit like that.
you added the part where I just say it to everyone in your interpretation.
Hell, majority of guys DON'T wanna receive compliments from another dude. Even if Reddit tries to make you believe that isn't the truth. We, as males wanna be out at least look strong and being told sissy shit is far from it. Again, from a girl has a lot more of merit, especially since she don't go around saying them to guys usually unless I dunno, every dude in her condo is a model.
You're spot on in the last part, there's already too much bs and disconnection in the world, another lie just between eachother just to don't feel sad and depressed of being eternally single, failed in life or whatever isn't going to help.