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So basically A for effort, that's exactly what I mean by it being insincere.
Because that is just lying to people to make them feel better. It's patronizing and disrespectful.
why would it be insincere? again, sounds like a you problem to me.
What do you mean why? YOU just explained it to me.
You said you would tell someone their beautiful, not because they actually are, but because you're regonize that they put in effort. That's insincere.
You said you should tell random people on the bus (most of them will be very average looking) that they are beautiful, because you want to make them feel better. It doesn't get much more insincere than that.
Also, there is no problem because guys randomly complimenting each other isn't a widespread thing in the real world. And in my book that's a good thing. There is already enough lying and disconnect from reality in the world.
obviously I'd only say it when I actually think it's beautiful... I just prefer to compliment something where they put in effort instead of just "nice eyes" or "youre beautiful" or some bullshit like that.
you added the part where I just say it to everyone in your interpretation.
Hell, majority of guys DON'T wanna receive compliments from another dude. Even if Reddit tries to make you believe that isn't the truth. We, as males wanna be out at least look strong and being told sissy shit is far from it. Again, from a girl has a lot more of merit, especially since she don't go around saying them to guys usually unless I dunno, every dude in her condo is a model.
You're spot on in the last part, there's already too much bs and disconnection in the world, another lie just between eachother just to don't feel sad and depressed of being eternally single, failed in life or whatever isn't going to help.