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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I'm sorry if I misunderstand, are you saying you were forced to present as a woman? If so, I'm sorry that happened to you but it does sound like it worked out for you.

If that wasn't the case, to me it sounds like you were unconsciously aware of your gender but had conscious defense mechanisms that took time to work down.

My experience isn't all that dissimilar, in that I admitted to myself and my therapist that I was "not cisgender", knowing perfectly well that that would definitionally mean I am transgender, but also denied that I was transgender. This was repression, "still cis though" to a higher level. It sounds like your experience was similar.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

The judgement of whether or not someone is trans is if they say they are. I frankly don't understand what I said that makes you think I think it is acceptable for anyone to dictate someone's gender or whether or not they are really trans, but I absolutely don't believe that. I edited my original comment with a clarification.

The story sounds inauthentic to the trans experience and I think they made it up. I don't think the OP isn't trans, I think their made up story doesn't stand up to scrutiny.

The leading theory for what causes people to be trans (or gay for that matter) is hormonal fluctuations at critical points of fetal development. So we are born this way. People can be gender fluid as well, and they may have a different relationship with their gender(s) than I since I am not.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (22 children)

My basic point is this: If it's inflictable, it's curable.

I for one knew my gender from about as young as I could talk (Edit: I repressed this for many years due to massive social pressures). I remember my assigned gender being inflicted upon me at a young age, when I did not immediately conform. If you asked me pre-transition but after I realized I was trans whether or not I would press a button and become cis in my assigned gender, I would say that that feels like losing a significant part of myself. If you were to ask me, if I could have pressed a button and become a cis in my actual, realized gender, I would have said yes and that it wouldn't have been a major loss of self at all. This is true pretty much my whole life. But I lacked the self awareness to realize this about my self, and that has changed, not my actual gender. We are quite literally gaslit our entire lives in regards to our assigned gender. Usually, before one comes out, one tries to embrace their assigned gender only to find that they do not feel comfortable (i.e. dysphoria).

I don't reject people having fluidity in their gender or sexuality. The way I view it, there is a multidimensional spectrum and people tend to inhabit different areas of it. If they did actually change sexuality or gender, and not just discover it, due to fluidity, then they might inhabit an area that includes something close to or exactly their assigned gender as well as their realized gender.

The leading theory for what makes people trans, and gay for that matter, is hormonal fluctuations during critical moments in fetal development. In other words, we are born this way.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (4 children)

What do you think happened that made your internal gender change? To me, and to most trans people in my experience, it was a discovery of an already present internal gender and not a change.

It is also true that people who are more introspective, such as people who experienced trauma, are more likely to come out as trans - perhaps this is true for you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (36 children)

You might say such a person is "not really" trans

Excuse you, I would never tell someone they are not really trans. If they say they were made trans by life circumstances, I would tell them that that is likely not true, but I would never dictate someone's gender.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (66 children)

A big reason that drove me was that I have a micropenis.

Fake. There are no "reasons to drive someone" other than their internal gender, this sounds like something ~~a cis person~~ someone who thinks being trans is a choice would say.

Edit: For clarity, I'm not speculating on whether or not the OP in the post is trans or cis, I'm saying it doesn't sound like a real story because it sounds inauthentic to the trans experience. A trans person could easily think this up, like anyone can make up a story that is close to their experiences, but since it isn't real it doesn't really pass scrutiny.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

The majority of those are nothing burgers. They shut down their dedicated password app when they integrated its features into the browser, they shut down their encrypted file sharing tool when they realized it was being used for very nefarious uses, they shut down Positron and it's affiliated projects because nobody started using it over Electron... and a lot of the rest are extremely niche (like viewing websites in 3d, cool but not all that useful).

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago

The title refers to Yoda

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

Reverse image search shows the image is over 5 years old (old r/funny thread about it) so not AI generated

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Why? If it's American Propaganda, know that that is mainly financed by US social media because TikTok is doing so well. It isn't a Chinese propaganda machine despite what uninformed fools will tell you.

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