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Hey good for you for taking care of them. There's nothing wrong with helping out if you're able and willing.

In America, the older folks tend to have more money than the younger folks. So culturally speaking, we don't really think to send money to our elders.

The first way is pensions used to be common, so older folks get that. There are also retirement accounts that people would pay into their whole working life. (These are very commonly offered and are pretty set and forget.) Cost of living used to be a lot lower too, so they also had greater opportunity to save up as they aged.

Another way is that established people tend not to have to spend as much money. If you live in your own house and have for a while, your home goods are typically handled and you only need to replenish as needed. (I'm talking things like furniture, small fixtures... Stuff that would be a pain to move or replace if you are not as established.)

Also in the United States, current working age people pay into social security, which older folks can draw from. (There are rules and exceptions, but for the most part, this is how it works.)

So here, the older folks are in a better financial position overall. (There are of course exceptions, and with their advanced age it is harder to dig themselves out.

For myself, I am doing well. But even though I'm ahead of many of my peers, I'm still not doing as well as my parents when they were my age. The cost of my schooling was much higher than that of someone that graduated 30, 20, even 10 years before me. (But it did allow me to get a very good job.) The cost of living rose quite a bit higher than wages, so I wasn't able to save and invest like they did. I've had to take on second jobs to pay for healthcare. (My parents did not have to.)

I might be a bit biased though, because I was also told I would get no financial help from my parents after I became an adult. I would be far more inclined to help if they invested in my education, which would have made me be way more far ahead financially.

However, I do help my mom when I can. I visit. I help her fix things. I don't help her financially though.

It blows my mind when people do that.

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Lots of people covered other things I dislike more, so I'll say the curved screen at edges. I liked it flat better. It also makes it so much harder to install the screen protector.

That would be a mass killing (many murders in one session) not serial killings (many murders spread out over time).

Ugh, as if.

That's super cool! I knew a guy that would eat small ropes and pull it out his nose but... Wow that is next level. Thanks for sharing.

Definitely. It's best to know your own limits. (Akin to dropping something too heavy before hurting yourself.)

That is definitely a thing.

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When I was on welfare, I got Medicaid. (Free health insurance from the government.) I chose the plan with no copays or deductibles. It was nice.

They had another plan where the copay was $3. I had it before I moved to the no copay plan. It's fine, but being on welfare at the time, every dollar counted.

Now I have my employer plan and my copays range from $15 - $50, depending on the type of appointment I see. I pay about $1k/month in premiums.

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