Huh, I might try that sheet planner myself, thank you.
The one thing that helped me a lot was just my therapist explaining to me that my mom was an adult who made her own decisions about her own life, and It wasn't my responsibility to fix her problems because of her decisions that she kept making
She's a huge enabler of my adult brother to the detriment of her own life/wellbeing, and I was so fucked up over not being able to help her in any way. Just that explanation was enough to get me to breathe functionally again.
I wouldn't say I hate it, but I can't watch it.
I used to love it. I was obsessed in the early 2000's. Then I went to college for animation, and learning about how that all works absolutely ruined all enjoyment for anime.