My mom's unwillingness to break with religion, or just not make it a requirement of the partners she picks, even though christian men all treat her like trash. She refuses to see how bigotry is a feature of the church, and not a bug, because she herself is pretty tolerant.
I guess I kind of consider my step dad to be my dad, though that will probably change if he ever figures out I'm trans, or have dated men. My biggest issue is his bigotry, as mentioned above.
These things made me pretty awful and biggotted myself for a while, until the stress of being a self hating queer broke me, and now I'm pretty anti-authority, and anti-bigotry.
You have to juggle far too many things to be successful and it just makes me so anxious that I can't juggle just one thing.