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I'm trying to get a feel for what users appreciate and want out of community moderators.

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• What community rules do you like?

• What moderation actions do you think are helpful?

• What is a helpful way for moderators to interact with their respective communities?

• Anything else relevant?

Did you enjoy it? Was it worth it? How were you able to pull it off?

I'm going to go see the eclipse next week, and I want to video tape myself doing something ridiculous. For example, I could enact some ancient spiritual ritual or play Total Eclipse of the Heart the whole time. I'm leaning more towards the ritual since I wouldn't be annoying everyone around me and would have time to engage in the totality. However, any other good ideas? Also, if the ritual is the route to go, any recommendations on what ritual?

I'm probably never going to have this opportunity again, so we gotta make it really good.

Feel free to elaborate on the topic!

Image: 4 panels organized in a rectangle following a sequential order like a comic strip. The first panel is of a man with a very serious face stating, "Hey man, got any diphenhydramine?" The second panel is a grainy picture of the actor Robert Downey Jr. with a slightly inquisitive face and saying, "What's that?" The third panel is an identical copy of the first image and saying, "Benadryl the allergy medicine." The fourth and final panel is a grainy picture of Bobby rolling his eyes and taking a deep breath.

Edit: Tony Start -> Robert Downey Jr. I didn't know that Tony Stark was a character Robert Downey Jr. played 🤦‍♂️

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/12320962

Neurotypicals, what do autistic people look like to you?

Trying to get an idea of how NTs see us. I know that when I see autistic people, I see someone that's like me. Obviously, that's not how NTs perceive us, so what do we look like to yall??

Trying to get an idea of how NTs see us. I know that when I see autistic people, I see someone that's like me. Obviously, that's not how NTs perceive us, so what do we look like to yall??

The US is supporting Israel through what we can mostly all agree is a genocide of the Gazans. Clearly, Biden isn't a genocidal maniac, yet he's all in with unwavering support. Why are we doing this? There has to be a logical reason that isn't just "we want Israel to kill everyone in Gaza and take their land a la lebensraum."

We know this is an emotional topic, so please be respectful of each other so that we can have open and clear authentic discussion on the matter.

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I have always disliked seeing myself on video because I thought I looked weird, which made me feel uncomfortable. I couldn’t figure out what it was, so I would ask others about it. Some people would agree that I was a little different and say that I had my own style, while others would disagree and argue that I looked “fine”. Of course, a few would state that many people do not like to see themselves on camera regardless. I just went with the latter with a little bit of having my own style sprinkled in there.

Earlier this week, I saw a ~25 mins video interview of me that was recorded last year on some pretty heavily emotional topics regarding certain experiences I had a while ago. The purpose of the video was to document my experiences for sharing with others, while for me personally, it was to leave a record. I didn’t really want to watch it because of what I shared in the previous paragraph and because of the emotional intensity of the topic, but a few friends encouraged me to watch it. This was the first time I saw myself on video since diagnosis, so I had a new perspective to consider, and…

Wow! It’s really obvious I’m on some sort of spectrum, especially to anyone with personal experiences with other autistic people. This cracked me up because I remember being really worried before my autism assessment that I was going to pass as an NT. After seeing that video, there is no way I could pass as an NT to an expert evaluator. I both (1) focus on details that most people wouldn’t and (2) speak on beat and with more pauses.

As far as details, I noticed that I shared more deeply how things physically and emotionally felt. Rather than use a specific word for an emotion, I would describe the physical sensations and give similes. When describing physical feelings, I would use more detail than most people. I also seem to choose to focus on the details of experiences that most people would not, yet omit details of some experiences that most people would. It’s like we have a different process for choosing what to elaborate on, or the sensations we experience are so different, that the details we think are worth sharing are from different experiences.

As far as my verbal rhythm, I want to take you on a preparatory tangent first. I have two favorite artists that I’ve been listening to for the past 1.5 years. One has openly stated in his songs that he was diagnosed with autism as a kid. Regarding the other, I have strong suspicions of him being autistic just because of the topics of his songs, the details he goes into, and his rhythmic pattern. He has come out as diagnosed with ADHD, btw. Moving on, earlier this week, I was listening to Eminem a lot. While listening, I noticed that he has a rhythmic style, particular details that he focuses on, and has verses that increase in intensity in a manner that musically expresses how I feel. I also noticed that it was pretty similar to my two other favorite musicians that do the same thing. It’s almost like they get so worked up, that they explode by sharing a lot of contradictions, injustices, and hypocrisy that’s driving them mad. So, I thought that I should look up Eminem and autism. Guess what?! He ~~was diagnosed with~~ heavily implies he's been diagnosed with the old Asperger’s (yum!). Anyway, having said that, I noticed that while watching the video of my interview, I speak in a similar rhythm. I definitely speak on time as if I was following a metronome, while I notice that most people are pretty fluid and don’t start each word on a beat. Yet, even if I extend the length of a word to emphasize it, I will extend it to the next beat. I will also take mid-statement pauses to ensure I use the correct word I am feeling. This makes it look like my speech is discrete, while the general population’s speech is continuous.

There’s something with my facial expressions as well. I can’t figure out what exactly, but my best working guess is that it’s almost like my facial expressions are more focused on the specific message/word I’m stating in that moment, while NTs tend to use facial expressions that are for their entire statement. It also seems like some of my expressions are planned and decided, not a natural thing that is just coming out as a result of my emotional state.

The last thing I noticed was my eye movement and focus. NTs tend to focus on major objects and stay there. When they look at people, they look like they’re reading a book. They use their eyes to express emotion as well. On the other hand, my eyes were quite different. When it’s obvious that I’m thinking, either my eyes seem like they’re temporarily shut off and I am not seeing anything, or they mimic me looking through my brain as if I were rapidly searching the shelves of a warehouse. Lastly, my eyes tend to not focus on what I’m engaged with, but with things off to the side. I maybe looked at the camera 3-4 times over 25 mins, and that was at the beginning to introduce myself and the end to terminate.

Lessons learned

I didn’t need to be worried that they would say I wasn’t autistic at my autism assessment. It’s pretty freaking obvious. I remember that part way through my assessment, the psychologist looked like she was just following the protocol but had made a decision pretty early on that I was definitely autistic. Take that into consideration if you’re worried about your upcoming autism assessment.

NTs that have personal experience with autistic people probably see it pretty quickly. Even though I believe I’m “high functioning”, it’s not subtle if they know what to look for, especially if I am engaged in social interaction. They may not say it, but a lot of people probably see it more than I had imagined.

Please share your thoughts and experiences! We can make this a discussion about self-awareness and learning more about ourselves and others.

This is based on their age at the beginning of their term.

Trump was 70 at the beginning of his term and 74 at the end. If he is elected in the upcoming election, he will be 78 when he starts again. If he serves a 4-year term only, then he will be 82 at the end of it.

Joe Biden was 78 when he started. At the end of this term, he will be 82. If he is re-elected and completes a full term, he will be 86 when he finishes.

Thus, if Trump wins the upcoming election and serves only 4 years, he will be the oldest president by 159 days over Joe Biden.

If we rank by the oldest age they reached while in office, Ronald Reagan would be in 2nd place since he served from 69^1^ to 77 years of age.

Interestingly, the 4th oldest president was William Henry Harrison died 31 days into his term in 1841, which is the shortest presidential term in US history. The prevailing hypothesis on the cause of his death was pneumonia followed by possible typhoid fever after giving the longest inaugural speech in US presidential history in freezing cold temperatures.

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