Credit to Mr. Lovenstein

Trying to get an idea of how NTs see us. I know that when I see autistic people, I see someone that's like me. Obviously, that's not how NTs perceive us, so what do we look like to yall??

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.giftedmc.com/post/246881

Is society just a bad dnd campaign?

Being autistic in our world means for me that I have to behave a certain way, speak a certain code and keep certain aspects of myself hidden or risk to get attacked, verbally or physically. I repeat this over and over, day in day out.

Meanwhile I am looking forward to hosting another game of dnd this saturday and it just occured to me that our reality is sad and pathetic while turning to the internet and people outside this oppressive „society“ is like looking at a piece of art. Popping colors and various shapes and interesting objects to behold.

It might be seasonal depression speaking here but it was really palpable right now.

Anyone relate?

I've been struggling with anxiety and depression for several years now, and finally got to a point where I can take care of myself day to day.

But i'm still looking to start earning some income to pay for living expenses and therapy, but I can't seem to find something that's not full time and long term. (Especially when looking for something higher than minimum wage)

Anybody have tips on where to find jobs or projects like this? (My background is in software engineering, but I'm willing to do anything, perhaps even more interested in options that don't require too much computer work)

Credit to seebangnow

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/12038511

ACAB

https://twitter.com/RightWingCope/status/1758494628481737161

Hi all.

I've been having trouble remembering events and tasks because I often don't notice the notifications of my smartphone or computer when focused on something.

How do you all deal with this without continuously checking your phone and laptop?

And when I check my laptop or phone, I often stop doing anything else because I know something is coming up. And I often also start browsing or doing other things which was not my intention.

Please take your time familiarizing yourselves with the new rules. some redundant rules have been removed, some were merged, and rule "3) Your posts must include a text body." has been added. feel free to discuss the rule changes and ways you feel the rules could be improved under this post.

It’s called Pi and it’s a conversational AI made to be more of a personal assistant. In the bit of time I’ve used it, it’s done far better than I expected at reframing and simplifying my thoughts when I’m overwhelmed.

Obviously, talking to a real person is much better if possible, but the reality is some of us don’t have the finances to pay for therapy or other ways to cope with the anxiety/depression that so often comes with ASD. What are your thoughts on this?

I read that autism comes with repetitive behavior and restricted interests, so what do you think?

What exactly limits your behavior like my own?

I have a 10 yo daughter with PDA autism (and ADHD) who decided to refuse her medication in early January. We have noticed a big difference from when she took them so we really want her to get back on them, but nothing we have tried works. Anyone with some experience they want to share? We are grasping for straws at this point. Help

why did the app do me like that with the spacing

doesn't double texting signify you're anxious and overbearing?

edit lol this is for a music thing

i cantcontrol it, if music has funny sharp noises that are very loud my brain says hey go on laugh like a manic 😭 please also sm1 explain why this happens.

i never remember any lyrics from a song, i just hear how beautiful the song is. if i force-focus to focus into the lyrics, the song starts to sound boring ;-;

I am the older male head of household.

Edit: It's over now. Thank you all for your kindness. It has definitely helped me.

Credit to James of No Trades

Content Warning: This is a post detailing arguing with a friend about ND rights. It's probably going to cover topics of discrimination, eugenics, conversion therapy/ABA and other serious topics.

Hey. So I have this friend, let's call him Woof, who I'm close to. Like, close in an almost-dating-but-its-complicated way. I find it difficult to find new friends, so basically he was the only real person I could lean on and confide in as a friend.

Due to various things, I've kinda gotten emotionally invested in the whole neurodivergence movement thing recently. The idea that things like autism should be treated as diversity rather than disability.

Woof... Doesn't see the same way. He works as an ambulance driver and as such has seen a lot of people who have all sorts of difficulties... My understanding is that he thinks the whole ND movement thing is a bit naive and ignores some people who really need help and support.

It's something we've butted heads about before, but it's gotten really bad the past two weeks. I just... Think there's something we're miscommunicating and misunderstanding. What he's saying sounds logically sound, but feels uncomfortable to me...

I know I probably shouldn't rant about this stuff to the internet, but I could really use some comments by a neutral party. Especially since it feels like I'm strawmanning him super hard and projecting some of my own uncertainties onto him. Or maybe I'm avoiding uncomfortable truths? Or maybe I'm overlooking something and will make a fool of myself (which happens every time I talk about politics...). Again, just looking for extra views and thoughts.

The crux of his thoughts are that some people really suffer. There are autistic people that have severe problems, like intense hypersensitivity, weak cognitive ability, inability to communicate. Those kinds of things.

Outwardly at least, I personally don't have much issues. I have a job (for the time being - my quality of work has been slipping due to mental health), I can travel around unaided and I can communicate to people decently well. I have a lot of mental fuckery and problems, but that doesn't stop me getting the coveted title of "high functioning".

So I can't really say that I have experienced the hardships faced by everyone. There are a number of people that will never be able to adapt and fit into society. Or those that are constantly overwhelmed by the world and have severe trouble coping. They have my sympathies, but I'm not them.

Given that, am I forcing my views on people where I shouldn't? Am I assuming people are generally like me, and so I ignore the voices of those who have greater difficulties?

Are we all like that here? Most people here are adults who can articulate their thoughts and desires clearly enough and can function "okay" enough in society.

Can we truly advocate for people with more severe versions of the same symptoms? I think so; it's similar to how bi people can advocate for gay rights despite being able to have "normal" relationships. Woof doesn't think the same way for ND though. Different severities of conditions might require different allowances and support, which can get overlooked by people fighting just for themselves.

I was going to go into specific cases about specific events, but that's probably not going to be useful. We've argued about a lot of the main controversial autism things, so I'll try to give a summary.

My stance is usually on the "pro-ND" side. I think regardless of neurotype, everyone should get the support and not feel the need to change who they are. That even those with severe difficulties deserve to live their lives as best they can and be who they are.

Woof's stance seems to be usually on the "pro-change" side. That if there was a way to remove people's neurodivergence without causing harm, it should be offered to them. And that for those that are truly suffering, it should be the choice that is encouraged.

... I guess his stance also reacts with my anxiety beast in a bad way... I would consider myself as someone who has suffered my entire life. Would it be better if I were someone else? Would Woof prefer me if I were someone else? Do I have a moral obligation to prevent people like me from existing? Do I deserve to live? Blegh.

But yeah, sorry for rambling. It's all been stuck in my head and I'd appreciate some different viewpoints. Even if it's just to tell me that I'm wrong. If you've made it this far, I appreciate you reading it.