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[–] [email protected] 5 points 17 hours ago

My wife is funny and smart and fit and pretty and caring and tolerant. I tell her this every time I see her doing one of those, so it's a few times a day. Then she smiles and we're even.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 18 hours ago

Regularly, sometimes in a teasing fun way, other times seriously and sincerely. I know she benefits from the positive reinforcement and I appreciate it when it's reversed and I'm being complimented as well. I agree with the other commenter who said they do this for everyone in their life. If you have something nice to say and sincerely mean it, why hold back?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

Never. Single for maybe ten years now.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 day ago

I compliment my wife on her personality traits multiple times a day. But not just my wife, everyone in my life. Friends, coworkers, children, pets.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

That bitch?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago

Never, but I think that's alright seeing as I don't have one.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

All the time! Words are cheap and everyone enjoys a compliment, especially those with lower self esteem and a myriad of concerns and doubts. But I compliment everyone when the circumstances call for it, from telling my friends I love their shoes (IDC nor do I have an eye for fashion, but I know they do!) to praising my colleagues, telling them how competent they are at what they do etc etc (it's deserved, plus it keeps the machine running smoothly). If you're mentally agile, have read a book and aren't too consumed with your own insecurities, words should come very easily to you, so don't forget to use them!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

I often compliment people on things that stand out, on the assumption that they choose them for that purpose. Purple shoes? Colorful glasses? A vest with patches? Better believe I'm saying something!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

I try but I'm not good with compliments, both giving and receiving them

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

As many times a day as I can!

She is head-turningly beautiful, but I wouldn't give her a second thought if it wasn't for her amazing, wonderful personality

She's the most intelligent person I have ever known, she's kind and generous, she is insightful and wise, she has lived a hell of a lot of life l and yet has a generosity of spirit that the most innocent would envy

I tell her that she's beautiful all the time, but the most important thing to both of us is who we are on the inside, so I make damned sure that she knows that I love her for who she is above all else

[–] [email protected] -5 points 1 day ago

I would be worried that this is one piece of an AITA post, and we're missing the key info because you didn't want to share it with us. If it is, YTA.

If it isn't, then ... occasionally, not too often, back when I had a girlfriend.