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- Online
- Professional
- Personal
There's large overlap with all three, with online being more of a caricature, and professional being more reserved. Personal is the baseline.
How distinct are your Online and Personal personae?
That's difficult to answer.
On one hand, I do believe that when you are online in a nonprofessional capacity, you should be using a pseudonym. One of the many negative influences social networking has had on the netsphere, is now people just broadcast everything under their actual identity. I think that's such a huge mistake, from an opsec standpoint and beyond.
That being said, I partake in a lot of activities under online pseudonym that personal me identifies with and enjoys. I suppose I don't need those accomplishments associated with day-to-day me to feel satisfied.
However, I also like to sew little bits of falsehood into my online presence, for both shits and giggles as well as creating more of a proxy between identities.
So, I digress... difficult to answer.
I am an engineer, a father, IT staff for the family, somewhat of a coder, house maintenance person/engineer, sowing machine operator, glue operator, pest exterminator, AC maintenance staff for the household, chef... 🤔... I probably missed a few.
Mother, stepmother, mother in law, daughter, daughter in law, sister, wife, aunt, niece, cousin.
Accountant, sysadmin, home cook, home bartender, home accountant, home help desk.
Ex dancer, Ex Barber, Ex Salesperson, Ex Cashier.
This is actually something I've been thinking about a lot as of late...
I broadly have three "identities":
- My "IRL" identity, for work and family life and stuff.
- My "online" identity where I pretend to be a wolf-thing.
- My "spicy online" identity which... Well, it'd be rude to share. :P
I've been wondering how isolated to keep them... But as part of my recent plan to stop worrying about everything so much, I'm trying to not get too stressed about ways people could figure out how to "link them together". I highly doubt that anyone is going to take the time to run my reputation through the mud. And even if they tried, I like to think we live in modern times where the fact that I look at werewolf boobs isn't going to be that morally objectionable.
Or at least, I hope so.
My "spicy online" identity which... Well, it'd be rude to share. :P
It'd be rude *not to share. FTFY
- Husband
- Dad
- Son
- Brother
- Entrepreneur
- Engineer
- Resident Handyman
- Household Treasurer
- Church Treasurer
- Outdoorsman
- Family Musician (who barely has time to practice)
- Drive big rigs during the week as an owner operator.
- Bounce for a local joint on the weekends.
- Former PT (physical therapist) but I got tired really quick of rubbing feet and baby sitting adults.
- Online: I hang around health forums and bust balls
- Artist
- Anime nerd
- Class rep
- Set a record at my school for achieving the highest possible score on an exam
- Pikmin connoisseur
- The person you can open up to without being judged
- Multilingual
- Goofball
- PC gamer and modder
- The smart one
- The one who knows too many trivia
- Weird computer addict
I have personalities with subtle differences depending on the group I’m with in person.
- My spouse - my truest self, very little to hide and keep to myself.
- Immediate family - not very personal. My family has never been very openly affectionate growing up.
- Bandmates - a little more assertive and leader-like.
- Workmates and strangers - the identity I mostly go with in public. More introverted, less talkative, and very guarded.
With what the addnet companies know all of these are practically doxxes.
I don’t feel like there’s much difference in how I act depending on the company I’m in. The only difference I can think of is that online, I don’t care about my reputation at all, so I just say what I think - often without caveats. When I inevitably get misunderstood or mislabeled, so be it. Some random person in a different country thinking I’m something I’m not doesn’t really bother me. In real life, I just listen and nod while disagreeing in my mind. It’s usually only when I’m asked that I say what I actually think.
The one who suddenly had to use this restroom anytime the "list five words that describe you" exercise came up in grade school.