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Finally had my performance review with my boss. (It's about a month late and I'm the last one on the team to get it.)

Objectives: ๐Ÿ’ฏ Goals: ๐Ÿ’ฏ Feedback: FenrirIII is great. Keep up the good work! No negative feedback. Bonus: 100% Raise: 0%

I find out that there was an incident that cost me my raise (i.e. my director denied it).

Earlier in the year, my Sales team fucked up and screwed up a deployment, which has nothing to do with me. I went out of my way to fix their fuck up because they punted it over to me. It took 2 weeks and a lot of favors to get it fixed and running.

That same Sales team blamed the whole thing on me (again, not involved until they screwed up) and told the customer (who had never met me) to tell my VP and Director that I suck when they met them in person at an event. Unbelievable. Now, I'm expected to go work with these sabotaging assholes and keep breaking my back to keep them from torpedoing me again.

Fuck that. It's quiet quitting time and job hunting elsewhere. There will be other asshole Sales people out there, but maybe I can get a pay bump out of it.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 86 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Contest the performance review in writing. You can do it nicely, and factually. Put out a timeline with as factual of a tone that you can. But I would put it on the record and print the email and take it home with you and put in a safe place. Something like this can be used to justify a firing if not corrected.
And yes I know what at will employment is, but putting on record also helps avoid this being used as a pretext for some other illegal firing (e.g., age, gender, race, union activity).
Or someone talking shit about you to other companies - you can sue over that, but again, it helps if you have a record that supports it. Overall, though: yeah, fuck that company. Go somewhere that you're valued and start finding a good reference at the place you're at. Coworkers that you worked on projects with can work if you don't have someone you reported to that's honest.

[โ€“] [email protected] 39 points 7 months ago (2 children)

After my rage has subsided, I will do this. I spent 3 months under a microscope because of this incident and proved that it wasn't as big a deal as they (management) were told and that it was not my fault. But, apparently, it's a great excuse to justify denying me a raise. I will contest the decision if possible.

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago

Yeah. Angry emails aren't great. But good to get on record before too long.
Write it all out now, and have a friend do a tone edit.
Or post it here and the Internet can do it for you. And hope your employer doesn't do a search on text.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Keep looking for a job if you go this route. Most companies are far more willing to force out an annoying employee than fix a broken process.

[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago

Yeah agreed. Unless there is a pattern of shittiness from the employer, it's probably best to handle this diplomatically and firmly.

[โ€“] [email protected] 63 points 7 months ago

There's nothing 'mildly infuriating' about this -- this is full blown infuriating. Enraging.

Hope you find something better soon

[โ€“] [email protected] 47 points 7 months ago

No good deed goes unpunished. Sorry those rats threw you under the bus after you cleaned up their mess. Good luck finding something new

[โ€“] [email protected] 22 points 7 months ago (1 children)

quiet quitting time

That's just called "doing your job". You're not being paid to break your back for the corporation. If they wanted you to, they'd include it in the contract and pay enough money for it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago

I like the term "acting your wage."

[โ€“] [email protected] 21 points 7 months ago (1 children)

In addition to what Hello_There said, (which I think is good advice), try to find a paper trail that supports your version of events. If there are emails still in your inbox from that incident which show how things truly went down, you should try to dig them up.

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago

I have 3 years of email (corporate policy). Time to go diving!

[โ€“] [email protected] 20 points 7 months ago

Burn it all down. And before for that, make sure everyone higher knows exactly why you are burning it down.

[โ€“] [email protected] 13 points 7 months ago

Sounds like a toxic environment. Do what others said but also definitely don't linger.

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Feeling it. Starting to look myself.

Moved to a new team, former boss was frustrating, to say the least. Great company on the whole. Maybe I'm an idiot?

Pinged tonight by my new manager, who is on PTO but kinda half-ass working anyway. Some shit, "When I get back." Other shit, "Do this now."

"Updated user account per his manager."

"Told you not to touch that till I get back."

"You updated the tracking sheet saying do this thing."

Fuck me. I can't keep up with conflicting verbal orders, ticket orders, Slack orders, and Jira orders. Am I supposed to provide a fucking timeline as to what was ordered at what date and time?!

"Also the list in that email, go ahead and make all of the users except $X and $Y as regular users."

"Uh, no warning?"

"No need to update the sheet at this moment. I will deal with the people on the list when I am back."

Done. And still working on it. Now I have no idea whether to continue.

EDIT!: Boss was wrong a fully apologized! He's gotta stop half-assing being on PTO and trying to work anyway.

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago

Always document the fuck-ups of others in email: "Hey, $asshole

Just wanted to follow up on the failed deployment of xyz because of {$asshole's actions}. Of course I am willing to assist in getting this back on track. Here is a list of what tasks I will have to complete to accomplish this: " or some shit of the sort.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Write up all the details of the deployment you had to fix.

Then, change some details to obfuscate the source. But keep the overall essence of the technical problems that needed solving.

I bet it would make an interesting ebook. Like Soul of a New Machine in shorter format.

I would totally read pulp debug adventures.