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When someone infers a piece of info, they don't know it. At most, if the inference is strong enough, they can say "for practical matters it's like I know it", but there's always some chance that the inference is wrong.
That's relevant here because the main sources of info that you have about the others' intentions are all under their control, not yours. So inferences dealing with intentions are rather weak.
For example, they can claim that they withheld info because they didn't think that it would be relevant, or because they didn't know it. Or even when asked directly they answer in such a convoluted and indirect way that it's hard to know if they even said it. (NB: I know at least one person like this.)
Yes, that is why I did not contradict your statement that nobody really knows other people's intentions because that is true. But being able to infer covers the times where it is pretty blatant that there isn't another likely explanation than intentional omission.
I put an example of someone being asked by their spouse who they were with and what they did the night before. The person answered by naming a couple people and something they did, but omitted hanging out with another person and cheating on the spouse. Something so recent and obviously relevant to what the spouse asked not including the cheating can be used to infer it was intentionally omitted.
A question about something random that happened 10 years ago isn't likely to lead to the same inference.
Someone giving complex and obtuse answers can make inferring unreliable, sure. But that is more of a specific scenario and there are always some exceptions, but some exceptions doesn't mean the whole concept is invalid.
Fair.
I'm still "munching" what you and @[email protected] said; both of you wrote good points, it takes a while to think about this stuff.
And I for one appreciate so much that you do - take all the time that you need and I will know that the response will be all the better for it.:-)