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I find the """man up""" school of thought generally works for me when faced w a tough situation but 97% of the time it's presented as an obnoxious show of bravado. What are better ways to phrase this? (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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like, if i'm feeling bad but force myself to do something, i usually feel better. how to maintain the usefulness of this advice without presenting it as 'fuck your feelings', in that usual arrogant right wing sort of way

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

My mantras are:
Just do it. 🗸 = stop overanalyzing, start with whatever action you can do right now
Always eat your dessert first. = start with the most enjoyable or easiest part of the task
Be someone else. = pretend it's not you facing the tough situation but someone else who asked you to get them out of it

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Woah big disagree.

Furthest errand first.

Start with the vegetables.

Dessert first means nothing else is getting done

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Vegetables first means I'm going to sit here and watch them wilt.
Dessert first means I'm actually doing the hardest part by far – which is to start.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

How would a vegetable wilt if you've eaten it? I think the metaphor is falling over.

This isn't about starting at all, it's about the order of tasks presuming you are ready to begin work

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

It would wilt cause I wouldn't start eating it.
And this is about starting for me.