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Is it possible I am intersex if I apparently have a very wide female pelvic bone and everything else is male? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I was assigned male at birth but have increasingly started to notice over the years that other guys don't have a big notch on either side of their torsos like I do. It's my pelvic bone. I would go to a doctor to see what they had to say but they've seen me plenty of times and said absolutely nothing about being intersex and now I live in a rural conservative area and they don't seem to diagnose the same way in hardly anything that is a conservative third rail. I just seem to have a really wide pelvis just like a female. Everything else seems male. I am a very normal weight so it's not fat tissue - its clearly bone. I just feel gaslit over it and have been trying to gauge perceptions people have of me in my life in order to get on with things. I hate to turn to the internet but this is driving me crazy. I need something to work with, somewhere to start.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Biology isn’t binary.

correct

I would stop looking for labels

why, when a label can not only confirm to the person themselves all of the feelings and doubts they may have been having, but also finds them a supportive community of people like them they can relate to and share experiences with?

and just be you.

correct, but can only happen by knowing who you are first, aka finding the correct label/s for yourself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

💯 💯 💯 💯 💯

Finding a label and understanding yourself after a lifetime of confusion and self hatred for not being normal is immensely satisfying.

Sure, in an essentialism way we all transcend labels since an individual is so much more, but we live in a language based society. Having a label is the best way to communicate to another human "This is my experience".