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I'm so fucking irritable right now, every little thing is annoying me and my chest is tight, I keep clenching my teeth. I'm very familiar with these things, these are how my body is telling me "go smoke a ciggy"

Problem is, I haven't done that for a year and a half. I've had this happen before, sometimes years on into my quittings, its always random and it's always insufferable, like I'm a former psychonaut who accidentally cracked his spine 20 years later. Does this happen to anyone else out there? Any tips? I had a glass of wine but it didn't help take the edge off much

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm one of those people who has never really stopped having cravings. It only gets bad when I'm really stressed but it is low key there 24/7.

Thankfully, it's only really a battle when I'm stressed.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Hey I just want to share,a thought I had about the nature of stress that has helped me reframe a lot in my life, maybe it'll help you or somebody else

We know scientifically that stress hormones speed up our aging. So stressing is literally life at 2x. If you're like me, and 95% of the rest of us, then you have to earn a paycheck/ ,have to sell your labor for finances. If you're like the 75% of us that's one missed paycheck, or one t-boning that you're 100% the victim for but still spend weeks in the hospital just to end up evicted but still like 5 years from any insurance payout (murica), and you're stressing your bills...does the stressing over a debt to a faceless, soulless corporation lower your interest rate? Will the stressing and mental berating you submit yourself too erase those overdraft fees? If you're stressing over these kind of 'faceless' things you're literally spending your life double time, but...they don't accept that kind of currency.

If anything, the time lost to stress is also time thats twice lost because you could've been working towards a quickfix if not a perm solution.

All I'm saying, is don't spend your hours on things that don't appreciate them. I will never get upset at a phone company or utility or whatever's behest and torture myself for them. They don't care about any of us, it's high time we stopped caring about them too.

Try it out. Refuse to stress for a few days. Does life fall apart then? The biological imperative of the day is to simply survive, if youve done that, you're already winning. Don't let the faceless steal your thunder. ✌️