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"Friends" that only talk about themselves... (lemm.ee)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have some friends that go to visit their friends in Mexico from the US very frequently. When they come back in town we meet up to eat. But the entire meal they talk about their experiences and friends there. Usually I only get a couple of words in and then it is back to their plans. I am trying to live in the present and enjoy my life experiences and my life here at home. But they never ask anything and although they are nice people, I feel exhausted and defeated after we get together. Is it time to limit my friendship with them?

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago

It's often very difficult to see the obvious answer when we're living in the conditions ourselves.

However I think it's pretty obvious from your description, that you're not feeling rewarded, and your needs aren't being met in this relationship.

So yes, prioritize your own needs, and limit contact with them. Not in an angry way, but accept that they don't seem to have any interest in your life, and it hurts you, but it's true. Honor yourself.