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[โ€“] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Cut out my mother a few years ago and I'm doing pretty great. No more anxiety at family gatherings or random guilt tripping phone calls. It's amazing the behavior you recognize when you're no longer subject to it.

She was/is very manipulative and I'm hoping that my siblings eventually figure it out too. Two of them are firmly on her side while the other 2 remain neutral. I've explained to them my situation and they're all old enough to do with that information as they will.

There's no chance for reconciliation and I'm ok with that. This is the most I've been at peace in my life, so no regrets.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

This sounds eerily like my exact situation. It's only 3 other siblings for me though. I'll have to see her in roughly a month at my sister's wedding though. Kinda nervous, not gonna lie. But as you said I'm more at peace than I've ever been. Wife, kids, and I are all solid and growing together without that toxic cycle weighing us down anymore.