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My great grandfather is deteriorating and I'm worried it is negatively impacting my family. What should I do? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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My great grandfather moved in with me as he is having a hard time living alone and his cognition is starting to fade he is incredibly rude and claims false things due to his lack of senses in his older age and has fallen multiple times. I am starting to see that this situation could get worse and I am not sure how to proceed. I am thinking it would be best to have him stay at a facility that is properly equipped to handle him though I fear the family backlash from such a situation may be seen as taboo. Is there anything I should do to properly handle this situation? Do I need specific documentation or anything? I'm new to this and not sure how to proceed he wasn't always like this he was a good person when he was younger but I fear my kids may be negatively impacted from how he acts towards them now. Please help, thank you

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

What country and even state you're in starts mattering a lot at that point.

But as far as your personal situation, tell your family you believe this is a concern and that he won't go to doctors for it.

It sounds harsh, but if the family denies it's a problem, let one of them experience what he's like on a day to day basis. He might be able to fake it around them for short times, but wouldn't be able to keep it up for a week long stay.

It's tough love, but at a certain point you have to say you can't take care of him anymore. It won't get better