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What's a useful mental model you've put into practice (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Inversion Thinking

Instead of thinking about positive outcomes (assuming everything will turn out right), turn the process on its head by thinking what could go wrong and cause you to fail so you know what and who to avoid to maximize your chance of success or at least not being surprised so you're able to make contingency plans ahead of time to compensate

You need to also do the more conventional process of thinking so you actually have an affirmative plan but it helps to know where all the mines are buried (like Minesweeper)

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Think of three things for which you are grateful every day. I've been trying to get back into this mode after I'd used it for years and fell off. Example:

Got to have a nice dinner party with friends on NYE
Kitty has become a lot less anxious around strangers
Though it'll rain later today, it won't be raining when I go to work

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Do they need to be unique/new or can you recycle?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Can recycle (glad I don't have to go out in the rain is true any time it's gonna rain), but I try to keep them unique. I also try not to focus on things related to commercialism. For example, I might be glad I got to go to a live show (an event) but I don't list something like being happy about being able to buy a thing (especially luxury goods). But I can be happy that I have a thing that makes my life easier in a concrete way (that new toothbrush really kicks ass). I go for small things most of all, the ones that otherwise might be taken for granted. Hope that makes sense the way I wrote it.