I moved from Lemmy.ml because I liked the name of Lemmy.world and it ran a newer Lemmy version which meant I could make communities. I moved from Lemmy.world because they defederated from piracy communities they didn't even host (but for some reason still kept the small piracy community they DID host) From thelemmy.club because I couldn't see the Hackintosh community from there (probably defederated) Now I spent some time looking on join-lemmy.org and checked out some instances and this (lemy.lol) instance seemed good, so I chose that.
This is the great thing about federation though right? You can just sign up to another instance and see their content. Personally I think it's nice that there's a large instance that's free of them, sometimes it's exhausting going through their annoying comments.
I assume when everyone talks about hexbear being annoying, they refer to the comment images or whatever, but I've been using Voyager (previously wefwef) this whole time and it's always had those as a link by default so they don't clutter up the comments for me.