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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Same here

Same where? You had one comment and it's just the same tutting. That's not comparable to the variety of ways I tried de-escalating with the initial guy.

Now you want to claim you agree with me - about the widespread misreading of anything I write in the worst possible way - and you're threatening violence over that same misreading. What the fuck is this conversation?

'You were very rude disagreeing with that guy.' I said I agree with them and thanked them.

'Well you were aggressive toward people critiquing your rude disagreement.' I told them there was no such thing, because I said I agree with them and thanked them.

'It's plainly these specific turns of phrase.' I have invited half a dozen people to suggest what I was supposed to do besides agree and thank them.

'Hey buddy, I agree with you, but I wanna kick your head in for explaining how you're unhappy with all this condemnation.' This topic has been the most compelling argument I've ever experienced, against trying to be nice to people online.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The way you write heavily implies that you're only out to prove you're better than anyone else without even the faintest chance of you actually being better than anyone at anything. You sound smug, arrogant, ignorant, and generally offputting. If you can't understand that people don't like that, then I suggest you learn to enjoy being alone for the rest of your life.

Also, where did I say shit about you condemning the other person? Putting words in people's mouths is a great way to piss them off even more than you do just by opening your mouth in the first place.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My favorite part of this haranguing is how y'all don't hesitate to declare I'm subhuman and due for getting bones broken, but I'm the rude and hostile one for saying please and thanks.

This is the rudest thing you could think to say to someone, and it's over nothing.

I can't demean your character worse than you've just done, yourself.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'll take the hit just to watch you roll around in your own verbal diarrhea

My favorite part of this haranguing is how y’all don’t hesitate to declare I’m subhuman

Please point out the exact sentence, or set of sentences, where I said that.

This is the rudest thing you could think to say to someone, and it’s over nothing.

Good, perhaps you might start to understand now that you've been on the receiving end of your own behavior.

You've also not addressed anyone who's mentioned your incredibly condescending, snide tone. Literally nobody. Not even to be dismissive about it. You can ignore your problem all you want, but the fact is that the way you talk means you could be reading me a document saying that I've just been given $10 billion and I'd still fucking hate you. You asked why you were treated poorly, people answered unanimously, and you don't even have the wherewithal to consider the point that everyone is trying to pound through your brow ridge.

You're the problem. Your behavior is the problem. The way you talk is, you fuckin guessed it, absolutely the problem.

You got your answer. Accept it or don't, just do it somewhere else because nobody fucking likes you.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago

'You were very rude disagreeing with that person,' said a whole bunch of people wrong about me disagreeing with that person.

So I ask how I'm supposed to de-escalate such confusion, and get shit like this.

Yeah can't imagine why I'm not endlessly thankful for this feedback.