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Doesn't have to be one or the other. Invite them along to your existing friend group activities if you think that person seems nice.
Well what if you don't have friend groups, but individual, very close, intimate, old, meaningful friendships?
I mean, I'm sure we can come up with a lot of reasons why not to do it.
My point was just that you don't need to choose between hanging out with your friends and making a new friend. You never know, that person could become a friend for life. I think it's worth making the effort but I understand it's not for everyone.
I'm selective about who I keep as friends but I try not to close myself off initially, as I've been on the other end of it as well; being in a new city and trying to make friends. With some people it just doesn't click, while others I still have as some of my best friends.
Anyways, I wasn't trying to upset anyone, just giving my 2 cents
I think the situation isn't relatable to you which makes it difficult to get the joke. and that's perfectly fine.
It’s a lot to ask someone to drop into a group of 4+ friends of 10+ years and just hit the ground running. It takes a lot of effort from everyone involved. I’m for it but it’s not as simple as one might assume.