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I’ll start. I’m a 37-year-old woman, and I’ve always been indifferent about having children. I love peace and quiet, but at the same time, I wouldn’t mind having kids if my partner really wanted them.

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now and married for 11. I’m his second (and final) wife. He has three kids with his first wife. She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children. That solidified my decision not to have kids.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Thanks for this! I want kids myself, and constantly see people online being so negative to the idea, it's nice to see someone here being positive to it.

To me, it's quite simple: I really want kids. Have wanted for years. It's probably a biological urge more than anything else, but I find myself daydreaming about playing with my kids, taking them camping, and showing them how to build a treehouse.

We've accepted that there will never be an "optimal" time to have kids, so at this point we're kind of just "waiting for it to happen" (i.e. not actively preventing kids from showing up).

There are people out there moralising about how it's irresponsible to bring kids into this world, and I honestly couldn't care less what they think. I'm confident that I can give my kids a good life, that they'll be glad they were born, and that they will bring a lot of joy to the world.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

irresponsible to bring kids into this world

Completely disagree with this stance.

There has never been a time in history when the world hasn't been on the brink of disaster. My parents faced a world with the constant threat of nuclear war, HIV being a new unstoppable and untreatable terrifying catastrophe and relentlessly rising violent crime till the end of the 90s (all of these issues now are arguably well managed). They still had me and gave me a good life and I would argue that my parents and I are contributing significantly to make the world better regularly. We now have better healthcare, food and resource than any time in history. It's very self centred to think the major problems we are experiencing now are "the worst ever" and insurmountable.

Sure humans have made terrible systems that have led to a global climate disaster and terrible inequality.....but the answer to that is not to stop having children. Sure the global population needs to go down to a sustainable level, but it's happening way too fast in Japan and Korea and is a disaster in itself there.

There have always been people in impoverished parts of the world with absolute deprivation and no hope....they are not irresponsible for having children. A right to family life is a human right. Compared to most of the global population, most people online here are living like royalty. Everyone is presumed to be capable of having a family until proven otherwise.

Stop listening to idiots online. Good luck with your future.