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30M: Growing up I wanted at least 3 kids. Than I realized: Holly fuck our society is literary made up against having children. WTF? From age 5 or even earlier you are put in a 9 to 5 where you have to perform if you don't want to be labeled as stupid. In a system that does not care if you are the artsy type, the sporty type, the neat type etc and God forbid you have ADHD or something... the system does not care all it cares for is grades and that you shut up in class and memorize shit you'll never use ever again.
And as a parent: You are encouraged to go to work and give your kid for someone else to take care of. You want a kid because you want to spend time with it. Be involved in their lives and be a good parent. But hey if you want to afford to provide for it, you better be working from 7 till 7... so you're either fucked financially or you no time for your own kid.
Just yesterday at work, a coworker showed the card her nephew had given to her after she took the day off to go to an amusement park with them. The coworker was super proud showingit aroumd and you know what was written in the card? "Dear xy, I had a blast today it was so much fun. Thank you you made time for me in your busy schedule and did spend time with and took an extra day off for me. "
Quite sweet, until you realize: That poor kid is so used to be a second priority to work, that it has to emphasize so much how great it was someone prioritize them over work. I whish I was making this up...
This made me realize I'm quite happy with no kids. I wouldn't mind having them with someone that would actually tale their time to raise them with me. Like someone who is ok with being part-time stay at home (where we both work 50% and gake turns taking care pf the kid) else I don't see a point in having a kid.
Edit: RIP my English...