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Men are taught not to care for each other
Men may be taught not to care about randoms they don't know, but not dudes they care about. What is more important is that guys are never taught and never see modeled, how to care for men during some important moments of life. Men don't know how to care for each other anymore than women know how to care for men. Not that they don't want to. How to care for a man during a divorce is not modeled by men or women, because society doesn't actively care for men. It has to happen first for it to be modelled. Lots of men aren't comfortable attempting to provide support in such vulnerable moments when they have no idea what to do.
Actually the main issue is men aren't taught how to provide emotional support. I have difficulty with it myself. Heck, I think half of men can barely handle their own emotions properly, much less someone else's.
Men are there for their bros. But generally men expect their bros to ask for more physical support. Lend a tool, some muscle, use their car, help them carry furniture, lend some cash. Men will be perfectly ok to help a bro out at the drop of a hat for things like that.
But ask how to figure out how to get over a relationship? Uhhh...
Aktually...
Nah I'll be there for my bros