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Thank you for your kind words. One of my siblings did end up going no contact with my father, actually. I don't really agree with the particular way he went about it (long story), but I more than support the outcome tbh.
Honestly, I feel like there was an opportunity I had during the divorce where it would have made sense for me to go no contact with him. But he was very good at trying to make me feel bad for him at the time (I mean, we are all only human after all), and he even went and unprompted bought me a fucking car. I actually was going to refuse it, but was convinced otherwise. Through the years I've found that the interactions between my father and I can be mutually beneficial in their own ways, though I feel bad at times because I view what he did as unforgivable honestly.
We moved across the country from him and it has been nice that way for several years...I only see him a couple times per year. The frustrating part is he plans to move to my part of the country when he retires next year. I've repeatedly tried to reiterate to him that I am not going to suddenly see him every week because he moves here, but he doesn't seem to get the message. Honestly I'm at a loss as to what to do when that eventually occurs. Part of me kind of wishes he'll die before then so I won't have to worry about it.
Anyway, I know you didn't ask for that, but I appreciate the time you've taken and the words you've spent.