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Phantom hatred. Imagine for a moment, someone is calm, consistent, and composed one moment. You then walk into the room and it's as if a curse causes the otherwise stoic individual to be overcome by a visible dislike for you. You examine yourself and can't pinpoint whatever about you could cause this, but it happens wherever you go. In short, something unknown and unexplainable about you causes people to act out of their principles in the worst way, like reverse charisma applied to mass hysteria. If a schoolteacher is lenient enough to only give detentions for big misdeeds, by this phenomenon, your luck finds yourself with a suspension. If you know an officer who is lenient enough to give only community service for things as major as vandalism, by this luck, imagine them giving you a few weeks in jail and all it can be chalked up to is this metaphorical voice that directs people into hating you. And yet not a single person lets their rationale be spoken aloud.
Could be:
-the victim of racism
-a terminal narcissist
-very neurodivergent and not picking up social cues obvious to most
-sociopathically omitting context like "btw I was caught with albums of pictures of neighborhood kids"
-having been falsely accused of the previous one, but then failing to recognize that as an explanation
The third one (and for most people it's probably it, in fact you could technically make the second one a subcategory of the third one, as narcissism is a condition of the mind, and no, professional analysis dismisses the idea I am a narcissist despite the fact many people seem born ready to leap to that conclusion based on the idea the room seems not to be read alongside some elements of pride I carry) brings up something that even as a technical neurotypical (depends on the definition) I don't get. If a social rule is so important, why does society keep it "unspoken"? I can't imagine God for example being like "well, these rules are important, but instead of giving you these rules on Mt. Sinai, I'm just going to have faith in you on this one" (going back to the narcissism part, I'd argue that to me, leaving it "to the norms" comes off as more what I would expect from a "narcissistic" individual, I guess Socrates isn't welcome in our society). Of course, the other things are not out of the question, and there's a bit of nuance omitted (it's where my experiences diverge from my BF's, in fact I phrased it with my BF in mind), but nothing deceptive,